How to (Not) Waste Your Life

Titus 3:8-15 June 21, 2026 Pastor Ricky Alcantar
Thesis To avoid wasting your life, you must avoid distraction from the gospel, embrace discomfort for Christ's kingdom over personal comfort, and devote yourself fully to good works that advance and adorn the gospel.
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grammatical-historicalapplicatorycanonical
What's in this sermon

The shape of the argument

32 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #7
"The pastor provides a detailed series of diagnostic questions to help listeners discern when to engage in theological dispute (Titus 1) versus when to avoid distraction (Titus 3). The questions cover: is it a gospel issue, does it have major implications, does it have practical daily implications, are you the right person, is this the right place and person, do you have time and attention, and do trusted people agree with your assessment. He gives concrete examples (the flood vs. LGBT issues, Facebook arguments, Reddit message boards) and warns against being 'lions online and cowards at home.'"
Doctrinal loci· 9 surfaced
Ecclesiology · 9 Pastoral Theology · 8 Soteriology · 8 Ethics / Moral Theology · 6 Sanctification · 6 Anthropology · 2 Bibliology · 1 Eschatology · 1 Spiritual Warfare · 1
Bible citations· 24
Proverbs 1 | Titus 3:8 | Titus 3:9 | Titus 3:10 | Titus 3:14 | Titus 3:11 | Titus 3:15 | Titus 3:12 | Titus 3:13 | Titus 1 | Acts | Titus 1:12 | Titus 1:4
Illustrations· 5
  1. personal story · unit #3 — The pastor tells the story of a church member facing a life transition whose deepest concern was not career, relationships, or experiences, but whether he would waste his life. This story illustrates that beneath surface-level worries about achievements, possessions, and experiences lies a universal human question about whether life will be wasted. The illustration sets up the sermon's central question.
  2. personal story · unit #10 — The pastor tells a story of a conversation with Chuck Mosley, one of the church's earliest pastors, about how the early leaders avoided theological distraction. When asked how they stayed focused, Mosley revealed they never strategically planned to avoid distractions—they simply had their hands full with God's saving work, church restoration to Acts design, and belief that time was short. The illustration demonstrates that being consumed with the right things naturally crowds out distractions.
  3. historical example · unit #14 — The pastor vividly illustrates the discomfort of every person mentioned in Titus 3:12-13: Artemis and Tychicus sent to 'Pirate Island' Crete rather than a desirable location, Titus told to leave his settled life and family to meet Paul, Apollos the gifted orator sent to an unglamorous location instead of Rome, and Zenas the lawyer choosing discomfort over the comfortable life his profession could provide. The illustration establishes that none of these early Christians were comfortable—all were being sent or sending others.
  4. analogy · unit #19 — The pastor illustrates the concept of vocational devotion using escalating levels of basketball involvement: casual viewing, dedicated fan loyalty, recreational playing, rec league participation, and finally Division I player whose entire life revolves around the sport. The illustration maps casual-to-vocational relationship with basketball onto Paul's call for vocational devotion to good works.
  5. personal story · unit #22 — The pastor illustrates fruitfulness with a personal story of planting cacti in his front yard. Most grow vigorously; one barely shows life, prompting him to keep checking if it's alive or dead. The illustration maps onto Christian lives: Paul doesn't want people looking at our lives wondering if there's any life there. The unit clarifies that fruitfulness doesn't mean perfection—sometimes it starts with repentance—but over time worthy work should visibly shine and grow.
Theological claims· 9
  1. The more subtle and deadly danger facing Christians is not denial of the faith but distraction from it through unprofitable controversies. unit #4
  2. For most Christians, the greatest danger is not denial of the faith but slow, week-by-week distraction from the essentials—Satan entangles believers through quarrelsome disputes. unit #6
  3. People who neglect their families to engage in constant theological disputes become warped, sinful, and self-condemned—do not associate with them. unit #8
  4. Paul's test for avoiding distraction is simple: is it profitable and worthwhile—do not give your best energy to what is profitless and worthless. unit #9
  5. The greatest danger American Christians face is valuing comfort over Christ and his kingdom—sending and being sent only happen when we value Christ above comfort. unit #13
  6. Comfort is the path to a wasted life; discomfort for the sake of Christ and the kingdom is the path to an unwasted life. unit #15
  7. Christians are called to vocational devotion to good works that advance or adorn the gospel, using every opportunity God puts in front of them rather than waiting for dramatic future assignments. unit #20
  8. Crete mattered to God because people made in his image lived there who did not know Christ—unglamorous places matter to God when image-bearers need the gospel. unit #25
  9. This church exists and we have heard the gospel because first-century believers refused distraction and lived sent and sending others—we are called to continue this mission. unit #27
Quotations· 2
"Such is the cunning of Satan, that by the impudent talkativeness of heretics, he entangles good and faithful pastors, and we might insert Christians, so as to draw them away from diligence in teaching. We must beware, therefore, lest we become engaged in quarrelsome disputes." — John Calvin (unit #6)
"the lesson here is straightforward. Believers often do not have to look very far for opportunities to do good. When they see a need that is immediate and urgent, they are to meet it. While we cannot save the world, we can do good right where we are." — Paul Gionne (unit #20)
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0 · The pastor opens by connecting a personal object—a bolo tie inherited from his grandfather—to the biblical image of wearing wisdom around one's neck, framing the sermon as instruction passed from spiritual fathers

Amen. Well, good morning. I want to invite you to turn in your Bibles to Titus chapter 3. Titus chapter 3 is where we will be this morning. And this morning I'm wearing a bolo tie, a silver dollar bolo tie that I got from my grandfather. I inherited it when he passed away a few years ago. Makes me think of him. And it also makes me think of Proverbs chapter 1 where it says that if you listen to your father and mother, fathers in the faith and mothers in the faith, their instruction, their wisdom, their advice is like something you wear around your neck. And I just want to say thank you because so much of the way I live my life in any of its good respects is things I've picked up from men in this church over my 40 years of life. I was privileged to grow up here as a kid in the church. And so much of the way I think about marriage and parenting and Jesus and walking with the Lord, I've picked up and I'm wearing now from the brothers and fathers in this church. So I just wanna say thank you and encourage you toward the work that Robert was talking about. That you may, like Robert shared, invest in a young man for a season, but by God's grace, invest something in him that he will wear around his neck and have with him for the rest of his life. So please continue that good work, brothers. So Titus chapter 3 is where we are, and very similarly, Paul is writing as a father in the faith to Titus, someone he calls his true child in the faith, and these are his parting words now to Titus as he gives him the the final assignment of his instruction, which serves to give us our marching orders as well.

1 · The pastor reads the primary text of Titus 3:8-15 in full, establishing the biblical foundation for the sermon

So Titus 3:8, this is God's Word. The saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works. These things are excellent and profitable for people. But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and dissensions and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful, he is self-condemned. When I send Artemis or Tychicus to you, do your best to come to me at Nicopolis, for I have decided to spend the winter there. Do your best to speed Zenas the lawyer and Apollos on their way and see that they lack nothing. And let our people learn to devote themselves to good works so as to help cases of urgent need and not be unfruitful. All who are with me send greetings to you. Greet those who love us in the faith. Grace be with you all. This is God's word.

2 · A brief opening prayer asking for God's blessing on the preaching and hearing of his word

And Lord, we pray for your blessing over the preaching and the hearing of it in your house today. Amen.

3 · The pastor tells the story of a church member facing a life transition whose deepest concern was not career, relationships, or experiences, but whether he would waste his life

Well, recently I was talking to a brother in the church, uh, who's just undergoing a major life transition. He was closing kind of one chapter of his life and moving to another chapter. And I could tell that it had him— I don't want to say worried, but concerned. And so I was asking, OK, what is it about this transition that's concerning to you? And what he described was nothing of what I thought would normally concern somebody moving from one life stage to another. It wasn't a worry about his job or his career. It wasn't a worry about a relationship. It wasn't worry that he wasn't going to be able to achieve this hobby achievement or take this trip. It wasn't any of the normal stuff. Instead, he articulated something much deeper and something that stayed with me since that conversation. And he said simply, "I just don't want to waste my life." Now, first, when he said that, I thought, "Oh, man, most people don't worry about that. Most people are worried about their next job, their next vacation, their next thing, their next weekend." But actually, the more I thought about it, it stayed with me. The more I thought about it, the more I think— I think actually that worry is in the heart of every person. It's just a little deeper down the stuff on the surface, right? What's on the surface is stuff like achievements and experiences and possessions, meaning we wonder, man, am I going to achieve this thing? Am I going to get that degree or that job or that title? Or maybe they're worried about possessions. Am I going to finally own that car? Right. As we've walked in through these, you know, these beautiful automobiles in the front, maybe it has reawakened something in you thinking, man, I remember wanting that car when I was, you know, in my 20s. And you're thinking maybe it's that. Maybe it's that house that you've been saving up for. Maybe it's that possession, that television, whatever it is, that possession. Or maybe it's an experience. Maybe it's, man, I just want to take that kind of trip, that vacation. Or I want to be in that kind of a fiery romantic relationship. Or I want to have that meal that I've been watching, that one episode over and over on the Food Network of just imagining what it would taste like. Now, those are what's on the surface, but underneath, I think we wonder, but am I going to waste my life in the end? Like, I may achieve that, I may possess that, I may experience that, but in the end, will I have wasted it? And so the big question I want to ask today is, how do I keep from wasting my life? How do you keep from wasting your life? That's what Paul is concerned about as he closes this letter to Titus.

4 · The pastor identifies two major dangers Paul warns against in Titus: the obvious danger of false teaching that denies the gospel (the Circumcision Party in chapter 1), and the more subtle, deadly danger of distraction from the faith through unprofitable controversies (chapter 3)

And the first section we're going to talk about today is a warning. A warning that you might well waste your life. We— it's a warning that we might drift from the mission of Christ, and that drift is all around us. Look again at verse 9, if you would. But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. Now, there are two major dangers that Paul is warning about in Titus, and the first one was in Chapter 1. It's the more obvious danger, I think. Paul refers to a bunch of false teachers that have infiltrated the church, and he refers to them as the Circumcision Party. So likely they were teaching that you— hey, hey, hey, Christians, It's great that you've come to Christ, but also you now need to get circumcised. You now need to do these Jewish law things, and you better do that, otherwise I'm not sure you're going to heaven. And Paul says, no, it's grace alone, faith alone, Christ alone that saves you. It's not any of this other external ritual. And that's a gospel issue. And so Paul says that's a danger. And Titus, I want you to rebuke them sharply so they be sound in the faith. All right, so Paul sees that as a danger, and we need to be attuned to that. The denial of our faith is a danger, but there is a more subtle and more deadly danger present here in chapter 3. He refers to the danger not of denying the faith, but to distraction from it.

5 · The pastor explains what Paul means by 'foolish controversies'—endless arguments about genealogies and Old Testament laws that determine nothing important, profit no one, and accomplish nothing

For example, these are arguments about genealogies related to, "Okay, well, what about this person? Who are they related to?" And they were trying to find, were they related to this Old Testament person, or, or, Was this Bible hero related to this other one? They're trying to determine their heritage endlessly, or they begin to quibble about Old Testament laws. And should we still be doing this or should we be doing that? These, these unprofitable and worthless arguments that Paul is saying, meaning that they don't profit anyone. They're not worth anything. They're just arguments.

Where this fits

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The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

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1 Corinthians 7:25-40
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Christians must recognize that their primary citizenship is in heaven, which transforms how they relate to earthly citizenship without withdrawing from earthly responsibilities.
Philippians 3:20-21
Jun 14, 2026
Because God has definitively changed everything through the gospel of Jesus Christ, Christians must stop living like slaves who have been freed but continue wearing their chains, and instead live in the reality of their new identity as washed, renewed heirs of eternal life.
Titus 3:1-8
June 21 · This sermon
How to (Not) Waste Your Life
To avoid wasting your life, you must avoid distraction from the gospel, embrace discomfort for Christ's kingdom over personal comfort, and devote yourself fully to good works that advance and adorn the gospel.
Titus 3:8-15
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Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. In Titus 3:8-9, Paul tells Titus to stress 'faithful sayings' and 'good works' while warning against 'foolish controversies' and 'quarrels about the law.' What do you think Paul means by the difference between these two categories? What makes something a profitable use of our energy versus unprofitable?
    Titus 3:8-9
    → Can you think of a specific example from your own church or Christian community where you've seen believers get pulled into the kind of quarreling Paul warns against? What was at stake—and what got neglected while the argument was happening?
  2. Ricky said 'the greatest danger facing most Christians is not denial of the faith but slow distraction from it.' Do you agree? Why might distraction actually be more dangerous to our Christian walk than outright opposition?
  3. Look at Titus 3:14—Paul says believers should 'devote themselves to good works, so as to help cases of urgent need, and not be unfruitful.' What's the difference between casual involvement in good works and devoting yourself to them? How would your life look different if you viewed your good works as a vocation rather than an optional activity?
    Titus 3:14
    → What good work has God already placed in front of you right now—in your family, your workplace, your church, your neighborhood—that you might be treating too casually?
  4. Ricky emphasized that an unwasted life requires choosing kingdom mission over personal comfort. When you hear that, what specific area of your life feels most threatened? Where is comfort calling you away from something God might be asking you to do?
  5. Paul closes his letter to Titus by telling him about specific people—Artemas, Tychicus, Apollos, Zenas the lawyer—who are being sent and received. Why do you think Paul spent time on these names and movements? What does 'living sent and sending others' actually look like in practice for us today?
    Titus 3:12-13
    → Who in your life right now needs you to send them—to encourage them, equip them, or release them to serve somewhere? Who is sending you?
  6. Ricky said this church exists because first-century believers 'refused distraction and went all in on the mission.' If someone asked you to explain in one sentence why your church exists and what you're called to as a member, what would you say? Does that match where you're actually investing your time and energy this week?
Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we meditate on Paul's closing charge to Titus: how to build a life that matters for Christ by refusing distraction, choosing discomfort for the kingdom, and devoting ourselves fully to good works that advance the gospel.

Monday Titus 1:1-4

Paul opens his letter to Titus by anchoring all ministry in the gospel itself: the knowledge of the truth that accords with godliness, the promise of eternal life. Before Paul gives Titus any instruction, he reminds him why the instruction matters. An unwasted life begins here—not with busyness, but with clarity about what we're actually sent to do: advance the gospel and make disciples. Everything else is commentary.

Tuesday Proverbs 1:25-33

Proverbs warns that those who reject wisdom and despise her reproof will eat the fruit of their own way—they ignore what matters and reap loss. This mirrors Paul's warning in Titus 3:9: avoid unprofitable disputes, which entangle believers slowly, week by week. The danger is not that we deny Christ; it's that we get caught in endless quarrels while the mission waits. We refuse the distraction by asking Paul's simple test: Is this profitable? Is this worthwhile? If not, we let it go.

Wednesday Acts 20:28-32

Paul warns the Ephesian elders that after his departure, false teachers will arise and draw followers away. But the remedy is not debate—it's devotion to the word of God and to prayer. The early church advanced not by winning every argument but by staying laser-focused on the gospel and the care of God's flock. We inherit their work today. The question each of us must answer: Will we be distracted by the next controversy, or will we be sent like they were sent?

Thursday Titus 1:12-14

Paul cites the Cretan poet: 'Cretans are always liars.' Titus is sent to a hard place, a place of entrenched sin, where the work will be uncomfortable. Paul doesn't apologize for the hardship—he emphasizes it. The call to good works, to advance the gospel, to build the church in Crete means Titus cannot choose comfort. An unwasted life is never the comfortable life. It's the life willing to go where Christ sends us, even when it costs.

Friday Titus 3:14

Paul's final charge: 'Let our people learn to devote themselves to good works, so as to help cases of genuine need, and not be unfruitful.' This is not a call to dramatic, distant assignments—it's a call to see the work right in front of you and give it everything. Your family, your neighborhood, your workplace, your church community: these are not distractions from the gospel mission. They are the gospel mission. An unwasted life is built by being faithfully present and devotedly useful in the place God has already put you.

Sunday-evening family table

What's Worth Your Best Energy?

For the parent

This sermon is about not wasting your life by getting pulled away from what matters most. Use this prompt to help your family think together about how they spend their time and energy—what's actually worth it? Listen for where your kids see themselves getting distracted from things that matter.

Ricky talked about how some people waste their energy arguing about things that don't really matter, instead of doing the good work God put right in front of them. If you had to pick one thing—right now, this week—that's worth your best energy and time, what would it be? Why does that one thing matter more than other stuff you could be doing?
works for ages 7+ — younger kids may need help naming one specific thing, but they can understand the idea that some activities are worth more of our time than others
Couples · three questions over coffee

Comfort, Mission, and Us

  1. What part of the sermon stirred or convicted you most—and what did it stir in you individually about how you're spending your life right now?
  2. Where in our marriage have we chosen comfort over Christ's kingdom, and where do we sense God calling us to embrace discomfort together for the sake of the gospel?
  3. What is one good work—sent or sending—that God has placed in front of us as a couple that we've been hesitating to step into, and how can we pray for courage and clarity together this week?
Memory verse this week

Titus 3:8

The saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works. These things are excellent and profitable for people.

Why this verse: This verse is the sermon's thesis statement and the measuring stick Ricky uses throughout: an unwasted life is one devoted to good works that are profitable and worthy, not entangled in profitless disputes. Memorizing this verse gives you the simple test Paul gives Titus—and you—to evaluate whether you're wasting your life or spending it well.

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