The Narcissism of Sin

Exodus 9:17 July 21, 2024 Pastor Chris Oswald
Thesis Sin is the narcissistic exaltation of self over others, always causing harm, and true repentance requires descending into genuine humility before a God who does not exploit our weakness but offers grace to the truly humble.
Series
Exodus
Type
Expository
Tone
pastoraldidacticprophetic
Method
grammatical-historicalcanonical
What's in this sermon

The shape of the argument

69 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #63
"Issues a final direct charge: act on the Holy Spirit's conviction before you lose your nerve. Do not succumb to cowardice."
Doctrinal loci· 12 surfaced
Sanctification · 21 Theology Proper · 21 Hamartiology · 20 Soteriology · 16 Christology · 7 Ethics / Moral Theology · 7 Eschatology · 5 Bibliology · 3 Ecclesiology · 3 Pneumatology · 3 Doxology / Worship · 2 Providence / Sovereignty · 1
Bible citations· 33
Exodus 9:17 | Proverbs 4:8 | Psalm 68:4 | Matthew 25:31-40 | Psalm 68 | Deuteronomy 10:18 | Psalm 34:18 | Genesis 12 | Isaiah 19:20 | Galatians 5:19-21 | Ephesians 2 | 1 John 3:14 | 1 Peter 3:7 | Isaiah 1:11-17 | Amos 5:21-24 | 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 | Hebrews 12:14-17 | Isaiah 55:6-7 | Isaiah 55:8-9 | Luke 18:10-14 | Isaiah 55:10-13 | Malachi 4 | Deuteronomy 30 | Micah 6:8 | Isaiah 55:1-2 | Revelation 3:20 | Luke 19:1-10 | John 12:42-43 | Hebrews 12:18-24 | Psalm 51:17
Illustrations· 2
  1. historical example · unit #44 — Illustrates God's character using the Prodigal Son parable — the father does not exploit the son's lowness but celebrates his return.
  2. hypothetical · unit #48 — Constructs a hypothetical happy ending to Luke 18 — imagines the Pharisee returning to the temple to pray the tax collector's prayer. Serves as a model for the listener.
Theological claims· 19
  1. Pride is the root of most sins, and false repentance is rooted in false humility while true repentance requires true humility. unit #3
  2. All sin hurts other people by exalting ourselves over them, which is the narcissistic essence of sin. unit #12
  3. Pornography is not consensual in the spiritual sense — the Christian who knows better is taking advantage of someone who will face judgment for their participation. unit #15
  4. Adultery with an unbeliever is not spiritually consensual because the believer has light the unbeliever does not have. unit #16
  5. One key to overcoming sin is recognizing that all sin is narcissistic self-exaltation at the expense of others. unit #19
  6. Love is a more powerful force than fear in the Christian life, and positive desire for good expels sin more effectively than fear of judgment. unit #21
  7. Christians indwelled by God (who is love) can overcome sin by becoming convinced that their sin is hurting someone they are called to love. unit #22
  8. Love is fundamental to the Christian heart, and when sin is seen as hate toward others, Christians will be motivated to repent because they genuinely want to love. unit #23
  9. Christians often remain in habitual sin because they fail to see that their sin hurts others — they rationalize it as victimless when it is always self-exalting and always has a victim. unit #25
  10. No amount of religious activity will satisfy God until we stop hurting others — religious words and rituals are meaningless when we are oppressing people. unit #29
  11. If you continue hurting others, God will avenge them — he is not on your side, and your prayers will not be heard. unit #32
  12. The same dynamic of God avenging the oppressed is at work in Exodus, Isaiah, Amos, and 1 Thessalonians — the Lord is an avenger in all these things. unit #33
  13. True repentance requires descending from your elevated platform, becoming lower than the one you've hurt, and staying there as long as God's work requires. unit #39
  14. Some people would choose hell over humiliation, and Pharaoh was one of them — he could not humble himself and ran out of time. unit #40
  15. God is not like cruel people who exploit weakness — he does not use your lowness in repentance to gain moral superiority or humiliate you further. unit #45
  16. The moment you descend into true humility, God shifts from opposing you to being for you — God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. unit #46
  17. Pharaoh could not repent because he had used others' weakness against them and feared becoming weak himself, not realizing that God is not like us. unit #50
  18. When you humble yourself in true repentance, God immediately becomes your vindicator, avenger, and protector — God is with the lowly in spirit. unit #52
  19. Only when we recognize that the blood of Christ is on our hands will the blood of Christ be applied to our hearts — Jesus took your sins and wrath so you can die to them and rise to new life. unit #65
Quotations· 4
"You act like mortals in all that you fear and like immortals in all that you desire." — Seneca (unit #21)
"even our tears of repentance must be washed with the blood of Christ" — Puritan prayer (unit #59)
"Were you there when they crucified my Lord? The old Negro spiritual asks. And we must answer, yes. We were there. Not as spectators only, but as participants. Guilty participants. Plotting, scheming, betraying, denying, and handing him over to be crucified. We may try to wash our hands of responsibility like Pilate, but our attempt will be futile. Before we can begin to see the cross as something done for us, leading us to faith and worship, we have to see it as something done by us. Leading us to repentance. Only the man or woman who is prepared to own his share in the guilt of the cross may claim his share in its grace." — C.J. Mahaney (unit #64)
"Sacrifices? Sacrifices? I will not speak of sacrifices. Everything I did was far more than worth what I got." — David Livingstone (unit #68)
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0 · Sets the context for the sermon: the congregation is studying Pharaoh's story in Exodus, which provides a case study in repentance and false repentance

Welcome to the Providence Podcast. My name is Chris Oswald. I'm the senior pastor at Providence Community Church. We've been dealing with the issue of repentance at our church. No, not because anyone has, you know, needed to, especially repent in any kind of particular or public way. But because we are concluding the part of the book of Exodus that deals with Pharaoh. And Pharaoh's story has much to tell us about the doctrine and the ideas behind repentance. And so I thought we would get into that a little bit further in this particular podcast.

1 · Directs listeners to a previous sermon for additional background, positioning this message as a continuation or deepening of themes already introduced

Now, I would advise you to listen to the message that should appear right beneath this in whatever podcast player you are using. I think that message is called Pharaoh and False Repentance or something like that. I would encourage you to listen to that. You don't have to listen to it first, but I think that after we get done with this one, you may need a little bit more information that that particular podcast provides.

2 · Introduces the sermon's controlling metaphor — the narcissism of sin — grounded in Exodus 9:17 where God accuses Pharaoh of exalting himself against God's people

Today, in dealing with the issue of repentance and specifically the issue of Pharaoh's lack of repentance or his false repentance, I want to talk about the narcissism of sin. The narcissism of sin. And I get that idea from what God says through Moses to Pharaoh in Exodus 9, verse 17. The verse is simply this. You, speaking to Pharaoh, are still exalting yourself against my people and will not let them go.

3 · Establishes pride as the common root of diverse sins, and introduces the key distinction: false repentance flows from false humility, while true repentance requires true humility

Now, we all know that pride is the root of many sins, so that if you were to place many sinners in a room, you could find extreme diversity in all of their particular sins. Some would be liars. Some would be worriers. Some would be prone to harsh words. Others to cowardice. Some would have sexual sins or other kinds of addictions. You could put all those people in a room and they'd have all these different stories and all these different consequences related to their particular sins. But then if you spent enough time with them and you really were able to drill down to the root of the situation, you would almost always find pride. This is what we see in this text. You are still exalting yourself against my people. So I think a big takeaway from one of the big takeaways that we didn't really discuss in yesterday's message about Pharaoh and false repentance is that false repentance is almost fundamentally, almost always fundamentally rooted in false humility. False repentance is rooted in false humility, while true repentance is rooted in true humility.

4 · Performs a word study on the Hebrew term for 'exalt' in Exodus 9:17, demonstrating that the word carries a construction metaphor — piling up, building up, elevating — applied here to Pharaoh's pride

And what we see in the text is that one of the key sources of Pharaoh's false repentance is that even though he appears humble later on in the passage, he has still not actually become truly humble. His humility is a false humility. He was in reality still exalting himself. So when Moses wrote this account, he had to choose a Hebrew word to describe Pharaoh's pride. And I think this word exalting is an interesting choice. The Holy Spirit inspired Moses in his writing of the book of Exodus to use the Hebrew word mistilel, which means to pile up or elevate. You know, the word is not commonly used to describe an attitude. It's actually kind of more of a construction word, if that makes sense. In the book of Job, this word is used to describe siege works. And if you don't know what that is, the idea is that an invading army wishing to conquer a particular, you know, kingdom would build a large, you know, it would take weeks, if not months, and they would build a large amount of dirt, like a big dirt ramp up against the wall of their enemy so that they could get over the wall and get over the wall in mass. Not just a few people who could be easily killed, but thousands of people could run up this ramp and scale over the wall. But the word for exalt is used elsewhere in a construction sense and is translated often as highways, which again is just this idea of mounded up dirt and elevated road. Jeremiah 50 uses this same word to talk about a pile of grain.

5 · Extends the word study, showing that the term is used attitudinally in Proverbs 4:8 for elevating wisdom, demonstrating that Pharaoh is prizing himself the way one should prize wisdom

You see what I'm getting at? Like the word is really typically something about, you know, heaping up, about raising up, raising up a highway, raising up a pile of grain, raising up siege works, and so on and so forth. You know, it is used attitudinally a little bit in the Old Testament. For instance, in Proverbs 4.8, we are told to elevate wisdom to her rightful place. Elevate wisdom to a rightful place. Proverbs 4.8, The word prize there, if I'm not mistaken, is actually the word that is used for Pharaoh and himself in Exodus 9. So he's building himself up. He's prizing himself. He's putting himself first.

Where this fits

Recent preaching context

The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

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Jul 7, 2024
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July 21 · This sermon
The Narcissism of Sin
Sin is the narcissistic exaltation of self over others, always causing harm, and true repentance requires descending into genuine humility before a God who does not exploit our weakness but offers grace to the truly humble.
Exodus 9:17
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we descend from pride into the humility where God meets us with grace, learning that sin is narcissistic self-exaltation, that God stands with the oppressed, and that true repentance requires becoming lower than those we've hurt.

Monday Proverbs 4:8

Solomon tells us that to exalt wisdom, we must embrace her—but Pharaoh's opposite choice reveals the narcissism underneath all sin: the refusal to descend, the insistence on staying elevated. Every sin begins here, in the choice to keep ourselves on a platform above others. Until we see that our sin exalts us at another's expense, repentance remains impossible.

Tuesday Matthew 25:31-40

Christ makes himself present in the vulnerable—the hungry, the stranger, the prisoner. When we sin, we sin against him by harming the people in whom he dwells. This is not a victimless act, hidden from God's view. He sees, he is there, and he stands with them. Our sin is not merely breaking a rule; it is narcissistic violence against the vulnerable Christ identifies with.

Wednesday Isaiah 1:11-17

Isaiah's indictment cuts deep: God rejects the sacrifices and festivals of those who oppress the widow and orphan. We cannot sing our way out of sin. We cannot pray away cruelty. Religious performance becomes obscene when it masks injustice. God demands we cease the evil, learn to do good, and seek justice for the oppressed—not as an add-on to faith, but as its foundation.

Thursday Psalm 34:18

The terror of humbling ourselves lies partly in this: we have used others' weakness against them, and we fear God will do the same. But God is not like us. He is close to the broken-hearted. The moment you descend into genuine humility, God shifts—from opposing you to being for you. Weakness before God is the safest place you can stand.

Friday 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

Paul reminds us that sanctification and abstaining from sexual immorality are not rules imposed from without—they flow from belonging to God and being filled with his Spirit, which is love. When we see our sin clearly as narcissistic harm against those we are called to love, love itself becomes the motivation to turn. Fear may drive the first step, but love sustains the journey upward from humility into new life.

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Pray together this week

Prayer for True Humility and the Grace to Descend

Father, we praise you that you are not like us — that you do not exploit the weak or use our lowness against us. You stand with the oppressed and avenge those we have harmed. You are love, and your love reaches down to the humble in spirit. We confess that we have exalted ourselves at the expense of others, telling ourselves our sins are victimless when they always have a victim. We have rationalized cruelty as consent, harm as privacy, and self-indulgence as freedom. We have hurt people we are called to love, and we have done it narcissistically — taking what was not ours to take, using what was not ours to use. Forgive us.

We believe that Christ has descended lower than any humiliation we will ever face. He took our narcissism to the cross. His blood speaks a better word than condemnation — it speaks redemption. The moment we turn from our exaltation and descend into true repentance, you shift from opposing us to being for us. You do not humiliate us further; you meet us in our lowness with grace. Give us the courage to see our sin as hate toward those we should love, and let that vision break us. Let love for others motivate our repentance; if love is insufficient, let the fear of you supplement what is lacking.

Give us grace to descend — to become lower than those we have wronged, to stay there as long as your work requires, and to trust that you are with us there. Make us men and women who choose life over death, humility over pride, restoration over destruction. We commit ourselves to you, knowing that when we humble ourselves, you immediately become our vindicator and protector. Amen.

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Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. Read Exodus 9:17 aloud together. What does it mean that Pharaoh 'still exalts himself' against God's people? What do you notice about the language — is Pharaoh's sin primarily about his relationship to God, or his relationship to Israel?
    Exodus 9:17
    → Can you think of a time when you rationalized hurting someone by telling yourself it was victimless or justified? What was actually happening beneath that rationalization?
  2. The sermon claims that sin is fundamentally narcissistic — a self-exalting posture that always hurts others. Walk through a specific sin you've struggled with and describe how it exalted you while diminishing someone else. What did you gain? What did they lose?
    Matthew 25:31-40
  3. Pharaoh says words of repentance multiple times, but the sermon distinguishes between false repentance (rooted in fear of consequences) and true repentance (rooted in genuine humility). What's the difference between these two, and why does it matter whether Pharaoh's motives come from one or the other?
    → When you've repented of something, how do you know whether you were truly humble or just sorry you got caught?
  4. Read Isaiah 1:11-17 and Amos 5:21-24 together. What is God saying about religious activity divorced from justice toward others? How does this connect to the sermon's claim that 'no amount of religious activity will satisfy God until we stop hurting others'?
    Isaiah 1:11-17; Amos 5:21-24
  5. The sermon says that true repentance requires 'descending from your elevated platform, becoming lower than the one you've hurt, and staying there as long as God's work requires.' What terrifies us about this kind of descent? Why would someone choose isolation or even destruction rather than humiliation?
    Psalm 34:18
    → What would it look like for you to genuinely lower yourself before someone you've wronged — not as performance, but as sustained change?
  6. Read 1 Peter 3:7 and Psalm 68:4-5 together. The sermon argues that 'the moment you descend into true humility, God shifts from opposing you to being for you.' If you are genuinely humbling yourself in repentance right now, what would it mean that God has already become your protector and vindicator — not your condemner?
    1 Peter 3:7; Psalm 68:4-5
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Sunday-evening family table

The Victim God Stands With

For the parent

This conversation is about helping kids see that sin always hurts someone — it's not just about breaking a rule, but about exalting ourselves at someone else's expense. Listen for whether your child can name a person who gets hurt when we sin, not just an abstract consequence.

When you do something mean to someone — like lying to get out of trouble, or taking something that isn't yours, or leaving someone out on purpose — who gets hurt by that? And if God sees that person getting hurt, whose side do you think God is on?
works for ages 6+ — younger kids benefit from a parent rephrasing to concrete scenarios they've witnessed or experienced
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Memory verse this week

Proverbs 4:8

Prize her highly, and she will exalt you; she will honor you if you embrace her.

Why this verse: This verse crystallizes the sermon's central claim: that sin is narcissistic self-exaltation that always harms others, while true humility and love (prizing others highly) results in genuine exaltation from God. It stands as the inverse of Pharaoh's refusal to humble himself—the path to true honor runs through descending, not ascending.

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Couples · three questions over coffee

The Narcissism of Sin

  1. Where did you feel convicted this week about how your own sin has exalted yourself at someone else's expense — and what did that conviction stir in you?
  2. In our marriage, where do we each tend toward the narcissistic posture of exalting ourselves over the other, and how might we descend into genuine humility together?
  3. What is one specific way you can pray for your spouse this week — that God would give them the courage to humble themselves where pride has taken root, and the assurance that God meets the humble with grace, not exploitation?
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