Outgrowing Anxiety, Part 3

December 23, 2025 Pastor Chris Oswald
Thesis Anxiety is resolved not therapeutically but theologically by understanding that we exist as God's adopted children to glorify Him, which reframes subordinate goods like comfort and success as means rather than ends, and transforms suffering from threat into the path of significance.
Series
Outgrowing Anxiety
Type
Expository
Tone
Method
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The shape of the argument

44 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #9
"Applies the George Bailey illustration by diagnosing anxiety as rooted in treating comfort, autonomy, and fulfillment as ultimate rather than subordinate ends, and suggests that resistance to suffering may produce chronic low-grade anxiety rather than the acute suffering that forms character and blesses others."
Doctrinal loci· 13 surfaced
Ecclesiology · 12 Theology Proper · 10 Soteriology · 9 Anthropology · 8 Sanctification · 8 Doxology / Worship · 7 Providence / Sovereignty · 6 Christology · 5 Eschatology · 5 Pneumatology · 3 Covenant Theology · 2 Ethics / Moral Theology · 2 Pastoral Theology · 1
Bible citations· 31
Romans 8:28 | 2 Corinthians 4 | Ephesians 1:4 | Ephesians 1:1-14 | Ephesians 1:6 | Ephesians 1:14 | Ephesians 1:12 | Ephesians 1:3-6 | Ephesians 1:13-14 | Ephesians 1:11-12 | Ephesians 1:7 | Ephesians 1:11 | Ephesians 1:4-5 | Ephesians 1:9-10 | Ephesians 1:5 | 2 Samuel 7:22-24 | Isaiah 43:21 | Isaiah 43:6-7 | Acts 15:14 | Ephesians 1:4-6 | Ephesians 1:4-7 | Ephesians 1:10 | Colossians 1:20 | Romans 8:19-21 | Revelation 22 | Revelation 5:10
Illustrations· 2
  1. cultural reference · unit #8 — Extended illustration using George Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life to embody the sermon's central claim about suffering's teleology. George's life of deferred dreams and repeated sacrifice becomes the path of significance rather than a detour from it, making him the jar-of-clay figure whose cracks display God's glory.
  2. personal story · unit #12 — Personal illustration applying the ultimate/subordinate distinction: the speaker's intact family and holy life are subordinate ends serving the ultimate end of glorifying God.
Theological claims· 5
  1. Anxiety is resolved by understanding what you are for — not to make yourself look good, but to make Christ look good through your very fragility and insufficiency. unit #1
  2. Social anxiety is fundamentally an attempt to be holy and blameless before the wrong audience — seeking human approval rather than conforming to God's standards. unit #5
  3. Anxiety appears when subordinate ends like comfort or approval are treated as ultimate ends, making uncertainty itself feel like a threat and paralyzing the capacity to love, lead, learn, and live faithfully. unit #13
  4. Scripture reveals a structured hierarchy of ends: God's ultimate end (His glory) governs subordinate ends (forgiveness, holiness, cosmic unity), and even subordinate ends are internally ordered. unit #24
  5. Ephesians 1's teleological architecture reveals that adoption is the penultimate subordinate end — all other subordinate goods either lead to it or flow from it, and it exists to serve God's triune glory. unit #39
Quotations· 3
"The sending of God's Son and his redemption of those who were under the law, important as they are in their own right, are here a means to an end. The end being who youthesia of the believers." — David Garner (unit #29)
"Adoption is the very goal of Christ's coming." — David Garner (unit #29)
"The final purpose of redemption on the stage of history is the glory of the triune God. Yet adoption as filial declaration and filial transformation accomplishes the prevailing doxological purpose of God by securing holy sons by adoption through the dead and resurrected Son, delivering the loftiest expression of his glory." — David Garner (unit #29)
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0 · Opens the podcast, identifies the speaker, establishes the series context, and frames the continuing conversation on anxiety

Sam, Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Providence Podcast. My name is Chris Oswald. I'm the senior pastor at Providence Community Church. So glad that you're listening today. This is part three of a series I've been plodding along in personally called Outgrowing Anxiety.

1 · Establishes the central hermeneutical key for addressing anxiety: teleology (what things are for)

Now, one of the key pieces of my approach to counseling and with counseling anxiety, dealing with my own anxiety, is to remember sort of teleological things that are important to remember. This is pretty much true of all suffering. You have to figure out what you are for, what suffering is for, so on and so forth in order to sort out anxieties, fears, disappointments, and so forth. A lot of times it just comes down to you thinking that something's for one thing when it's for another thing. And this is really the root of what I was talking about from 2nd Corinthians 4, where Paul calls himself a jar of clay containing the glory of Christ. And it is important that he be a jar of clay that is to be a fragile thing, because all of the cracks and breaks expose the glory of Christ, even his own endurance. Paul's endurance, the fact that he's still all in one piece to some degree, proclaims the glories of Christ. So in that particular case, the resolution to a lot of social anxiety is to think, okay, what am I for? And the answer is, I'm to make Jesus look good. I'm not to make myself look good. That's not my aim. I'm to make Jesus look good. And one of the ways I do that is by being so. Evidently not Jesus. Not in a sinful way, exactly. Although that, of course, brings glory to Jesus as well. But in this sense of just being imperfect, just being flawed, just making mistakes, not knowing things, having a lot more to learn, and so forth. If the light of Christ is inside of you, I need you to trust me to understand that. What will happen when that becomes a part of your life, when you are more vulnerable, when you don't know everything, when you do get confused, when you do make mistakes, when you do sin, all of that is just opportunity for Christ to shine through you. And that's what you are for. You exist to bring glory to Christ.

2 · Personal digression defending the use of Aristotelian categories (ends and means) by contrasting practical algebra with daily-use philosophy, and advocating for classical education's emphasis on logic and teleological reasoning

This idea of teleology, I was thinking the other day when I was just like every other kid learning algebra, thinking, am I ever going to use this? And the answer is no. I almost never use algebra, but I use Aristotle pretty much every day. I do wish there had been more philosophy, more logic in education, and I wish that was true to this day. Which is one of the reasons why I'm so grateful for classical education is we are going to give them the tools that they'll actually use. You say, well, Chris, how do you use Aristotle every day? Well, everything I just talked about, it's just being trained to learn to think about things from a perspective of ends and means, of what are we trying to achieve and how do we get there. I'm thinking through ultimate ends and subordinate ends, which I'll talk about here in a minute.

3 · Transitions from the personal aside back to the main argument by critiquing typical anxiety discussions as inadequate, reasserting that reputation exists to glorify Christ across all circumstances, and grounding this in Romans 8:28's promise that God works all things for His glory and our good

But anyway, to be clear, you're used to hearing, I mean, I don't mean to trash all of it, but absolutely pathetic, unhelpful discussions on anxiety that don't deal with basic things. But the reality is, is that one of the basic things is your reputation, your appearance, the way people see you. That's all meant to make Jesus look good, not you look good. And that can happen in so many ways in so many circumstances. Whether you're rich or poor or sick or healthy, smart or dumb, busy or have tons of free time, there's ways where you can glorify Jesus no matter what's going on in your life. That's because Jesus is working in all of those things to willing to work his good purpose. And he's going to turn all those things out for not only your good, but for his glory, is what Romans 8:28 says. And so just remembering that you're not, you don't exist for some other means, you exist for Christ is key.

4 · Introduces the primary text (Ephesians 1:1-14) and isolates verse 4's language about being chosen to be 'holy and blameless before Him,' setting up the exposition to follow

Today I'm going to talk a lot about. Well, I'm going to start talking about Ephesians because I'm supposed to preach this week on Ephesians chapter 1, verses 1 through 14, which I will do. But that is way too beefy and rich passage to just talk about it a little bit. So I'm going to go back through that later on. But one of the things, one of the things that Ephesians 1 says in verse 4 is that he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him.

5 · Defines 'holy' as conformity to standards and diagnoses social anxiety as an inversion of proper teleology — the attempt to be holy and blameless before people rather than before God, conforming to neighbor's standards rather than God's

And what the word holy just means there is conform to his standards. And so I want you to understand like that a lot of social anxiety is an effort to be holy and blameless before others. It's an inversion or a confusion of where you're supposed to be aiming your aspirations. If I am to be holy in this word, holy might have you confused. But if I am to be holy in the eyes of my next door neighbor, I have to conform to his standards, then I am holy and blameless. If I deviate from his standards, then I am no longer holy and blameless in his eyes. Well, a lot of social anxiety is just trying to be holy and blameless in the eyes of people who are not who made us or who we're supposed to live for, or so forth.

Where this fits

Recent preaching context

The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

Dec 7, 2025
Jesus Christ, as the Last Adam, has not only secured forgiveness for his people but has restored true humanity itself, enabling believers to walk in newness of life and reclaim the dominion mandate lost in the fall.
Romans 5:12-6:4
Dec 14, 2025
Christ is the complete and sufficient revelation of God and the final purification for sin, requiring no supplemental revelation or purification strategies—and personal spiritual freedom comes from rejecting all parasitic additions to His finished work.
Colossians 2:1-23
Dec 16, 2025
The foundational question for understanding faithful preaching is not methodological but theological: What kind of preaching pleases God, and that question must be answered by first understanding how God himself speaks.
December 23 · This sermon
Outgrowing Anxiety, Part 3
Anxiety is resolved not therapeutically but theologically by understanding that we exist as God's adopted children to glorify Him, which reframes subordinate goods like comfort and success as means rather than ends, and transforms suffering from threat into the path of significance.
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Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. In the sermon, Chris presented the claim that anxiety often stems from treating a subordinate end—like comfort, safety, or human approval—as if it were an ultimate end. What subordinate end do you find yourself most tempted to elevate to ultimate status, and how does that elevation create anxiety when that end is threatened?
    → Can you think of a recent moment when you felt anxious? What were you really protecting or pursuing in that moment?
  2. The sermon argued that social anxiety is 'fundamentally an attempt to be holy and blameless before the wrong audience.' What does it look like, practically, when we seek human approval rather than conforming to God's standards? How do these two audiences demand different things from us?
    Ephesians 1:4
  3. According to the sermon's interpretation of Ephesians 1, adoption into God's family is the penultimate subordinate end—meaning all other goods either lead to it or flow from it. How does understanding yourself as God's adopted son or daughter change the way you approach risk, suffering, or failure?
    Ephesians 1:5
    → What would change in your life this week if you truly believed you exist not to impress or be safe, but to make Christ look good through your very fragility?
  4. The sermon contrasted two ways of responding to suffering: trading 'bold, meaningful suffering for the chronic microdose of anxious self-protection.' Can you describe what each of these looks like in the life of a believer? Which one are you more inclined toward, and why?
    2 Corinthians 4
  5. Scripture reveals that God's ultimate end—His triune glory—governs all subordinate ends, including our adoption and our holiness. How does grasping that *God's glory*, not your comfort, is the ultimate end actually free you to love, lead, learn, and live more faithfully with others?
    Ephesians 1:11-12
    → What becomes possible in your relationships when you stop needing them to make you feel safe or approved?
  6. The sermon presented biblical sonship not as passive abiding but as active co-laboring with the Father—work that requires risk and suffering undertaken with confidence that 'the labor is not in vain.' Where is God inviting you to co-labor with Him in a way that requires you to outgrow anxiety and embrace meaningful risk?
    Romans 8:28
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we trace the arc of anxiety's cure: from understanding our ultimate purpose (God's glory), through the hierarchy of ends that orders our desires, to the penultimate reality of adoption that frees us from needing to impress, and finally to the active co-labor with the Father that turns suffering into meaning.

Monday Isaiah 43:21

Isaiah declares God's purpose for His people: 'The people I formed for myself that they may proclaim my praise.' We were not created to protect ourselves, impress others, or secure comfort — we were created to display God's glory. When we grasp this fundamental purpose, anxiety loses its grip because our fragility becomes not a failure but the very context where God's sufficiency shines most brilliantly.

Tuesday Romans 8:28

Paul assures us that God orchestrates all things for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose — and that purpose is ultimately His glory. This reveals the deep order of existence: neither comfort, approval, nor safety stands at the top. When we align our subordinate desires with God's ultimate end, anxiety arising from treating secondary goods as supreme simply dissolves, because we have relocated our trust to the only end that cannot fail.

Wednesday Acts 15:14

Luke records Peter's declaration that 'God first showed his concern by taking from the Gentiles a people for his name' — a people of adopted sons and daughters. This status as God's beloved children is not marginal but central to His redemptive design; it is the great 'penultimate end' that both receives all God's prior mercies and flows into His eternal glory. Understanding ourselves as adopted children removes the identity confusion that generates anxiety: we know who we are, whose we are, and for what we exist.

Thursday 2 Corinthians 4

Paul speaks of carrying 'this treasure in jars of clay' and being 'pressed on every side, yet not crushed' — the apostolic life is one of weakness and hardship, yet suffused with transcendent purpose. Our anxiety often arises from resisting the very suffering God uses to form His family and display His power. As co-laborers with the Father, we are not called to safety but to bold, meaningful suffering, undertaken with the confidence that our light afflictions are achieving an eternal weight of glory.

Friday Revelation 5:10

In Revelation, the redeemed sing that Christ 'has made us a kingdom and priests to serve our God, and we will reign on the earth.' This is our ultimate vocation and identity: not anxious performers seeking human approval, but royal priests already seated with Christ, commissioned to co-reign and serve. The resolution of anxiety lies here: when we embrace our true identity as adopted royalty with a sacred commission, the competing claims of comfort and reputation no longer have the power to paralyze us. We are free to love, lead, learn, and suffer with bold confidence.

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Pray together this week

A Prayer for Adopted Sons and Daughters

Father, we come before you in awe of your sovereign purpose and tender mercy. You have loved us with an everlasting love, chosen us before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless before you, and predestined us for adoption as your sons and daughters through Jesus Christ (Ephesians 1:4–5). We marvel that in your grace you made us for a glory far greater than our own — to reflect the praise of your majestic name across all creation.

Yet we confess that anxiety often reveals our divided hearts. We seek to impress the wrong audience, trading bold obedience for the chronic protection of self-preservation. We treat comfort and human approval as if they were ultimate ends, and when uncertainty threatens those shallow goods, fear paralyzes us. We resist the redemptive suffering you use to form your family, forgetting that we do not exist to be safe or comfortable, but to make your Son look glorious through our very fragility and insufficiency.

We thank you that the gospel has already settled our identity. In Christ, we are no longer orphans desperately seeking to prove ourselves — we are adopted children of the living God, fully accepted in the Beloved (Ephesians 1:6). His finished work has secured our standing before you forever, and nothing we do or fail to do can diminish the love you have lavished upon us. This is the good news that silences our striving and frees us from the tyranny of others' judgment.

Grant us grace, we pray, to live as your true sons and daughters — not passive, but actively co-laboring with you in confidence that our work is not in vain (Romans 8:28). Teach us to take risks, to speak truth, to love boldly, and to lead faithfully, even when it costs us comfort or approval. Help us see that anxiety dissolves when we understand what we are for — not to make ourselves look good, but to make Christ look magnificent through our submission to your ultimate end. Bind our hearts increasingly to the reality that adoption is our grand identity, the source of every other good, and the springboard for all meaningful living.

To you, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, be all glory, honor, and praise, now and forever. We are yours, and you are ours.

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Sunday-evening family table

What Are You Made For?

For the parent

This prompt invites kids to think about purpose beyond performance or self-protection. Listen for whether they're still caught in the trap of 'looking good' versus living for something bigger — and gently guide them toward the reality that God made them to display His glory, not to impress others.

The sermon talked about how anxiety often comes when we're trying to make ourselves look good in front of other people. But here's the real question: What do you think you were actually made for? Not 'What do you want to be when you grow up?' — but what's the deepest reason God gave you life in the first place?
Works for ages 8+ — younger kids can listen and share; teens and adults will engage at much deeper levels of theological understanding
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Couples · three questions over coffee

Adopted for His Glory

  1. What does it mean to you personally that you exist to make Christ look good through your weakness, not to impress others or protect yourself from harm?
  2. Where do we as a couple treat comfort or approval as an ultimate end rather than subordinate to God's glory, and how might that anxiety be calling us back to our true identity as His adopted sons and daughters?
  3. What is one specific area where we can encourage each other this week to take a risk or embrace suffering together, trusting that our labor in Christ is not in vain?
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Memory verse this week

Ephesians 1:5

He predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will.

Why this verse: This verse captures the sermon's central resolution to anxiety: your identity is not determined by human approval or self-protection, but by God's predetermined purpose to make you His adopted child. Memorizing this verse anchors the listener in the ultimate subordinate end that orders all of Christian life and relieves the anxiety born from treating comfort or approval as ultimate ends.

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