On Covetousness & Contentment

Exodus 20:17 October 27, 2024 Pastor Chris Oswald
Thesis Christian contentment, learned through difficult circumstances and grounded in God's satisfaction through Christ, is the prerequisite for finishing well in the faith.
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pastoraldidacticprophetic
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grammatical-historicalredemptive-historicalcanonicalapplicatory
What's in this sermon

The shape of the argument

55 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Doctrinal loci· 12 surfaced
Sanctification · 24 Soteriology · 11 Christology · 10 Hamartiology · 9 Ethics / Moral Theology · 6 Theology Proper · 6 Pastoral Theology · 5 Providence / Sovereignty · 5 Anthropology · 3 Covenant Theology · 3 Ecclesiology · 2 Doxology / Worship · 1
Bible citations· 12
Exodus 20:17 | Numbers 14:21-23 | Philippians 4:10-12 | 1 Corinthians 7:9 | Philippians 3:12-14 | James 1:2-4 | Romans 8:28 | 2 Corinthians 4:17 | Psalm 131:1-2 | Exodus 20:18-21 | Hebrews 12:18-24 | Matthew 26:26-28
Illustrations· 5
  1. cultural reference · unit #6 — Introduces a hypothetical (post-apocalyptic fiction) to illustrate how fundamentally the American economy depends on consumerism and covetousness—if people became content, the economy would collapse.
  2. historical example · unit #13 — Provides a real-world illustration of pastoral disqualification due to lack of contentment—a 70-year-old Reformed leader having an affair with a young woman because he could not be content with his own age and spouse.
  3. cultural reference · unit #15 — Provides a stylized summary of the deconstruction narrative: young people leave the faith fundamentally because they cannot endure God doing something they disagree with—a failure of contentment in the face of hard providence.
  4. personal story · unit #25 — Illustrates the danger of natural contentment through marriage counseling: couples who get what they wanted (a spouse) without learning contentment eventually become discontent with the spouse they have. Getting what you want postpones but does not solve the contentment problem.
  5. hypothetical · unit #26 — Extends the marriage illustration specifically to young men struggling with sexual sin: marriage provides temporary relief but not a permanent solution because sexual lust is fundamentally covetousness—a contentment problem, not a circumstance problem.
Theological claims· 21
  1. The Westminster Catechism identifies full contentment with our own condition as the central duty required by the tenth commandment and discontentment as the central sin forbidden. unit #3
  2. The American economy structurally depends on covetousness—contentment would cause economic collapse. unit #7
  3. Material abundance does not produce happiness—America's unprecedented wealth has not produced unprecedented joy. unit #8
  4. Modern deconstruction and pastoral disqualification are fundamentally failures of contentment, just as the wilderness generation's disqualification was. unit #12
  5. All modern church scandals—sexual sin, doctrinal compromise, greed—are fundamentally failures of contentment. unit #14
  6. Contentment is a prerequisite for finishing well in the Christian life—discontentment warps perception and drives sin. unit #16
  7. Contentment is both crucial and difficult—and this difficulty is central to understanding the gospel solution. unit #22
  8. Contentment cannot be achieved by getting what you want—it must be learned for its own sake, and God will eventually require us to learn it if we are to finish well. unit #27
  9. Christian contentment does not kill desire but redirects it toward God—Paul's contentment coexisted with intense yearning for more of God. unit #30
  10. The Christian is simultaneously the most contented (with circumstances) and the least satisfied (with grace received)—contentment and hunger coexist. unit #31
  11. Christian contentment is not the absence of desire but the cultivation of right desire—wanting God and godliness above all else. unit #33
  12. Christian contentment requires wanting heart-change more than circumstance-change. unit #34
  13. Christian contentment is the self-conscious experience of God's promises (Romans 8:28, 2 Corinthians 4:17) being fulfilled in real time during trials. unit #35
  14. Christian contentment cultivates good desires (for God and godliness) rather than dispatching desire altogether. unit #36
  15. Christian contentment is fundamentally conversational (with God), not self-talk (Stoic mental discipline). unit #40
  16. Christian contentment is prayerful and relational—grounded in the presence of God, not the strength of your own thoughts. unit #42
  17. In the new covenant, God has been satisfied through Christ, enabling believers to cast their cares on a contented, smiling God who walks with them. unit #46
  18. The heartbeat of the Protestant Reformation is the contentment of God—God fully satisfied through Christ's propitiation. unit #47
  19. Roman Catholicism and all other world religions portray a discontented God who can only be temporarily satisfied through repeated ceremonies. unit #48
  20. The Protestant Reformation revealed a God who has been fully, finally, and permanently satisfied through Christ's once-for-all sacrifice. unit #49
  21. Because believers are in Christ, God is pleased with them permanently—sin cannot threaten God's favor because Christ has abolished the law and conquered death. unit #50
Quotations· 10
"all too often we want the wrong thing in the wrong way, at the wrong time, for the wrong reason" — Someone (unit #1)
"the art of divine contentment" — Thomas Watson (unit #2)
"If happiness could be found in the comforts and pleasures money can buy, then the large number of Americans who have been able to indulge their whims on a scale unprecedented in history would be deliriously happy. They would be telling one another of their unparalleled serenity and bliss instead of trading prescriptions." — John Gardner (unit #8)
"who is wealthy? He who is content. Who is content? Nobody." — Ben Franklin (unit #27)
"A true Christian is a wonder. He is the most contented and yet the least satisfied." — Thomas Watson (unit #31)
"He is contented with a morsel of bread and a little water in the cruise, yet never satisfied with his grace. He pants and breathes after more." — Thomas Watson (unit #31)
"every man complains that his estate is not better, though he seldom complains that his heart is not better" — Thomas Watson (unit #34)
"Begin each day by telling yourself, Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill will, and selfishness, all of them due to the offender's ignorance of what is good and evil." — Marcus Aurelius (unit #38)
"It is our job to cast cares. It is God's job to take cares." — Thomas Watson (unit #46)
"now we are sure that Christ pleases God, that he is holy and so on, inasmuch then as Christ pleases God and we are in him, we also please God and are holy. Although sin still remains in us and although we daily fall and offend, grace is more abundant and stronger than sin. The mercy and truth of the Lord reign over us forever. Therefore, sin cannot make us afraid or make us doubt God's mercy in us, for Christ, that most mighty giant, has abolished the law, condemned evil, and vanquished death and all evils. So long as he is at the right hand of God making intercession for us, we cannot doubt God's grace and favor toward us." — Martin Luther (unit #50)
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0 · Opens the sermon by reading the primary text and signaling interpretive boundaries—warns against both hyper-literalism (focusing only on oxen) and over-restriction (limiting coveting only to neighbor's possessions)

Well, our text today is Exodus 20, verse 17, and it's a real simple text. It just says, You shall not covet your neighbor's house, you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's.

1 · Establishes two interpretive errors (hyper-literalism and neighbor-restrictiveness) and provides a working definition of covetousness as inordinate desire, citing an unnamed source to frame the problem

You could go wrong in a couple ways with this text, misinterpreting it. You could emphasize, like, a really dumb way to handle this text would be like, well, I don't want an ox, so I'm good, right? So you could have some sort of lack of elasticity in your interpretation on that end, where you think that only the things listed here, you know. No, it's anything that is your neighbor's. And then you could also make the mistake on the front end and think that this is mostly about wanting things that your neighbor has, as if you super, you know, really craving a new car that was on the dealership wasn't, you know, a potential way of coveting, because it's not your neighbor's. No, it's not, don't tighten it like that. Actually, the whole idea here is just an explicit rejection of covetousness. Covetousness could be defined as an inordinate, ungoverned, or selfish desire for something. Someone once said that all too often we want the wrong thing in the wrong way, at the wrong time, for the wrong reason, and that's kind of related to the 10th commandment.

2 · Pivots from prohibition (coveting) to positive duty (contentment), announces a two-week focus, and invokes Thomas Watson as a theological authority on contentment

I'm really mostly interested this morning, though, not in what it forbids, but in what it sort of commands implicitly, and that is I want to talk about contentment. And I want to talk about contentment this week and next week. I want to hit pause on our sermon schedule and just really focus on what Thomas Watson referred to as the art of divine contentment.

3 · Establishes Westminster Catechism as theological authority, citing its teaching that contentment is the positive duty commanded by the tenth commandment and discontentment the primary sin forbidden

I have a number of reasons for doing that. First of all, as I referenced the Westminster Catechism about the 10th commandment, it gives contentment a key role in fulfilling and obeying the 10th commandment. It says, The duties required in the 10th commandment are such a full contentment with our own condition and such a charitable frame of the whole soul toward our neighbor that all our inward motions and affections touching him tend unto and further all that is good, which is his. What are the sins forbidden in the 10th commandment? The catechism asks, Answer, The sins forbidden in the 10th commandment are discontentment with our own estate. That's what I want to focus on today. Envying and grieving at the good of our neighbor together with all inordinate motions and affections to anything that is his.

4 · Shifts into personal transparency, revealing the preacher's own struggle with contentment and framing the sermon as pastoral self-medication—preaching to himself as well as the congregation

I want to focus on contentment for two weeks for probably four main reasons. The first one is personal. As I studied this subject over the last few weeks, I just could see the Lord showing me some of the mistakes that I'll reference today, showing me that I have room to grow on contentment. And every once in a while, I have this sense that the Lord is like, It's okay, you can be selfish. Like, if you need to preach two sermons on this to everyone, to preach two sermons on this to yourself, you can do that. God gives me license to do that every once in a while. So one reason is personal. I want to grow in contentment.

5 · Extends pastoral reasoning, addressing both present and future need in the congregation—some are currently struggling with discontentment, others will struggle later

Another is pastoral. I know the story that you're living, many of you, and I know your situations and know that there are various reasons and various ways that you yourselves need to grow in contentment. Some of you need it now because you're facing a situation in which discontentment is ever tempting you. And some of you will just need it later. So pastorally, I think it's wise to just hit pause on our series and spend a little bit of extra time on contentment.

Where this fits

Recent preaching context

The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

Oct 9, 2024
The church must be a community of disciples who treasure God above all else because we become what we worship, and true salvation is knowing and enjoying God Himself as our highest good.
1 Peter 1:8-9
Oct 13, 2024
The eighth commandment reveals that all sin is fundamentally theft, but God's cure for our wrongful taking is His merciful giving of Christ on the cross.
Oct 20, 2024
Christians must become discerning judges of slander, treating false witness with the biblical severity it deserves while clinging to the hope that Christ's death secures citizenship in a place where lies are no more.
Exodus 20:16; Deuteronomy 19:15-21
October 27 · This sermon
On Covetousness & Contentment
Christian contentment, learned through difficult circumstances and grounded in God's satisfaction through Christ, is the prerequisite for finishing well in the faith.
Exodus 20:17
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Pray together this week

Prayer for a Contented Heart

Father, we come before you acknowledging that you alone are fully satisfied—that through Christ's sacrifice, you have been permanently pleased, your wrath exhausted, your justice satisfied once and for all (Hebrews 12:24). We marvel at a God who is not anxious, not grasping, not demanding more from us than Christ has already given. This is the God we approach.

Yet we confess our discontentment runs deep. We covet what our neighbors have. We believe the lie that one more thing—one better circumstance, one different body, one higher position—will finally make us happy. We have structured our lives around the assumption that contentment comes through acquisition, and we are exhausted. We see this same hunger destroying your church: pastors disqualified by sexual sin, teachers deconstructing the faith, believers scandalized by greed—all of it rooted in an inability to rest in what you have already given us in Christ.

But you have made a way. Because you are satisfied through Christ, we are invited into your satisfaction. You walk with us not as a terrifying judge but as a smiling Father (Romans 8:28). Every hard circumstance—every trial, every loss, every delayed dream—you are working for our good and our conformity to Christ (2 Corinthians 4:17). And this is not wishful thinking; this is the promise of the God who cannot lie.

We ask for grace this week to want you more than we want our circumstances changed. Teach us to be simultaneously content with what we have and hungry for more of you—not Buddhist detachment, but conversational communion with you. When covetousness whispers, help us to pray instead of scrolling, to confess instead of comparing, to ask for heart-change before we ask for circumstance-change. Make us the kind of people who can finish well, whose discontentment with sin grows sharper even as our contentment with your provision grows deeper.

We commit ourselves to this costly grace, trusting that the God who satisfied his own justice through Christ is more than able to satisfy our deepest hunger. Amen.

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Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. Chris argued that the tenth commandment doesn't just forbid coveting—it implicitly commands contentment. When you read Exodus 20:17, what does a command to contentment actually look like in your daily life? Where do you find yourself most vulnerable to wanting what belongs to someone else?
    Exodus 20:17
    → What specifically are you coveting—the object itself, or something the object represents (status, security, belonging)?
  2. The sermon traced the Exodus generation's failure to enter the Promised Land back to discontentment rather than outright idolatry or murder. What does it mean that a failure of contentment can disqualify you from finishing well in faith, even when you're not committing what we'd call 'major' sins?
    Numbers 14:21-23
  3. Chris described three different kinds of contentment: Buddhist detachment (wanting nothing), Stoic self-talk (talking yourself into acceptance), and Christian contentment (conversational with God). Which of these three have you tried, and what did you find lacking in each?
    → What would it change about your week if you approached a hard circumstance conversationally with God instead of through self-discipline or resignation?
  4. The sermon claimed that contentment must be learned, and God will eventually require us to learn it if we're to finish well. How have you experienced contentment being *learned* through difficulty rather than achieved by getting what you wanted?
    James 1:2-4
    → Looking back, what did God teach you about himself during that season that you couldn't have learned any other way?
  5. Chris argued that Christian contentment and Christian hunger are not opposites—Paul was simultaneously content with his circumstances and intensely unsatisfied with his grasp of Christ. Where in your own life are you being called to hold these two things together: acceptance of your circumstances and longing for more of God?
    Philippians 3:12-14
  6. The sermon's closing move was that God himself has been satisfied through Christ's sacrifice, which means believers can now cast their cares on a contented, smiling God. How does the reality that God is permanently pleased with you (because you're in Christ) reshape what contentment actually means for you this week?
    Hebrews 12:18-24
    → What would change if you believed—really believed—that God's favor toward you cannot be threatened by your circumstances or your failures?
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Memory verse this week

Exodus 20:17

You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's.

Why this verse: The tenth commandment is the sermon's primary text and its prohibition against coveting implicitly commands the contentment that is essential for finishing well in the Christian life. This verse names the sin at the root of every other failure—discontentment—making it the foundation for understanding why contentment is not optional but necessary for sanctification.

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Couples · three questions over coffee

Learning Contentment Together

  1. When have you felt the tug of discontentment this past week—and what were you actually hungry for beneath the surface?
  2. Where do you see covetousness pulling at our marriage—in how we talk about money, bodies, time, or what others have—and how might learning contentment together change that?
  3. What is one area where you need to want heart-change more than circumstance-change, and how can I pray for you in that?
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we learn contentment—not as detachment from desire, but as hunger redirected toward God himself, grounded in a satisfied Father who walks with us through every circumstance.

Monday Hebrews 12:18-24

The old covenant brought terror—a mountain that shook, a God hidden behind law and distance. But Christ has ushered us into an entirely different arrangement: we now draw near to "God, the judge of all," and to "Jesus, the mediator of a new covenant." This is not a fearful approach, but a drawing-near. When you are tempted to covet, to grasp, to fill the void with what God has not given—remember: the God you are approaching is not angry, not withholding, not discontented with you. He has been satisfied. You can rest.

Tuesday Romans 8:28

"We know that for those who love God all things work together for good." This is not a verse about luck or optimism—it is a declaration that God is actively at work in *this* circumstance, *right now*, weaving even this hardship into something that serves your good and his glory. Contentment does not deny the trial; it names what God is doing *within* the trial. When you find yourself discontent, asking "Why don't I have what he has?" pause and ask instead: "What is God working into me through what I do have?"

Wednesday Psalm 131:1-2

David does not say "I have stilled my cravings." He says "I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother." The contentment he describes is not numbness—it is the deep peace of a child who has stopped grasping and begun resting in the presence of the one who loves him. Your desires do not disappear; they simply find their true home. The ache you feel in covetousness—that real, genuine hunger—is meant to be satisfied not by another person's house, but by more of God himself.

Thursday Philippians 3:12-14

Paul writes from prison, yet strains forward toward the goal, pressing on toward the prize. He is not content with his spiritual progress, yet he is evidently content with his circumstances—chains and all. This is the peculiar posture of the Christian: at peace with where God has placed you, while burning with dissatisfaction at how much you still lack of God himself. Your covetousness of another's life is a misdirected hunger. Redirect it. Hunger for holiness. Hunger for closeness with Christ. Let that hunger consume you—and watch how your envy of other people quietly dies.

Friday James 1:2-4

"Consider it pure joy... when you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." Notice the logic: the trial tests your faith, and the testing produces the very maturity that will enable you to finish well. The Exodus generation never entered the land because they could not be content in the wilderness. They became discontented, and discontentment led them to doubt God, to grumble, to rebel. Where are you discontented today? Ask God to show you what he is building into you *through* that very circumstance—and watch your heart begin to shift from grasping to trusting.

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Sunday-evening family table

What Do You Actually Want?

For the parent

This prompt invites kids to notice the difference between wanting something because everyone else has it and wanting something because it's actually good for you. Listen for moments when they describe real hunger versus borrowed desire—and be ready to name what you see.

Chris talked about how our culture keeps telling us we need the next thing to be happy—a new phone, new clothes, a different house. But here's the question: When you really want something, how do you know if you actually want it, or if you just want it because someone else has it or because an ad told you to want it? Can you think of something you've wanted that turned out to be just 'noise,' and something you've wanted that was actually real?
works for ages 8+ — younger kids can listen and share what they want; teens and older will engage with the distinction between real and borrowed desire
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