Growing in Christ
Thesis All growth — numerical, relational, or theological — is only good if it is growth in Christ, who must be the substance, standard, source, and goal of everything the church is and does.
The shape of the argument
39 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.
- From Naive to Discerning personal story · unit #4 — The pastor narrates his own journey from naive enthusiasm about church growth strategies to a more discerning, 'dermatological' posture. The personal story illustrates the maturation of his own thinking and models the kind of discernment he's calling the congregation toward. The anecdote serves the preceding theological claim about the ambiguity of growth.
- What Constitutes True Skill analogy · unit #13 — The pastor uses a cultural definition of skill (what you find easy that others find hard) to set up Paul as a model of someone with exceptional abilities who nevertheless counted them all as loss for the sake of knowing Christ. The illustration supports the claim that Christ-centeredness trumps all other competencies, even theological ones.
- Marriage as Ministry Partnership personal story · unit #20 — The pastor uses his marriage as an extended illustration of what Christ-centered leadership looks like in practice. He narrates his international ministry work and his wife's support, emphasizing that her excellence lies not in permissiveness but in shared Christ-centered priorities. The illustration models sacrificial, counter-cultural leadership that subordinates personal preferences and cultural ideals to the pursuit of Christ.
- The Cascade of Joint Failure personal story · unit #30 — The pastor narrates his lifelong struggle with joint problems, beginning with childhood rheumatic fever and culminating in a catastrophic knee injury at 16 (caused by trying to impress a girl). The vivid, self-deprecating story illustrates how joint failure cascades through the entire body and prepares the congregation to understand Paul's metaphor in Ephesians 4:16. The illustration is both humorous and instructive, leveraging personal vulnerability to make the theological point accessible.
- The Cemetery Plot Pastor historical example · unit #33 — The pastor quotes an unnamed revitalization pastor who defined real Christianity as long-term commitment to a local church and whose fourfold vision ('preach, pray, love, stay') included buying cemetery plots nearby. The illustration vividly embodies the kind of covenantal commitment the sermon is calling for and provides a memorable, counter-cultural model of pastoral faithfulness. The cemetery plots detail is especially striking — a symbol of ultimate, life-long commitment.
- Not all growth is good — growth must be evaluated by its nature and direction, not merely its occurrence. unit #3
- Numerical, relational, and theological growth are not inherently good — Christ is the necessary condition that makes any growth good. unit #6
- The fundamental test of a church leader is whether they are showing people Christ and leading people to Christ. unit #14
- Non-Christ-centered lives and churches will collapse — helping others become Christ-centered is an urgent act of love, not optional. unit #16
- The essence of Christian love is commitment — Jesus' sacrifice flowed from his eternal commitment to us, and ours must mirror his. unit #34
"do you want to know that your Christian life is real? Commit yourself to a local group of saved sinners. Try to love them. Don't just do it for three weeks. Don't just do it for six months." — One pastor who helped revitalize the dying church (unit #27)
"preach, pray, love, stay" — Same revitalization pastor (unit #27)
Full transcript
0 · The pastor opens by narrating recent international ministry trips to the Philippines and Pakistan, tracing how Providence Church has grown from being planted 23 years ago to now planting ministry abroad
One departed Dave Quilla was in Pakistan.! So in terms of the safety assignments, Dave drew the short straw.! I was in the Philippines, he was in Pakistan. But all that to say, I think if you've been at Providence for any length of time, you understand how that ministry to those pastors in Pakistan started in Providence through a particular family at first and then spread throughout Providence. And so there was this moment where I'm in the Philippines, Dave is in Pakistan. We're both training pastors. And it's just this moment of extraordinarily punching above our weight. As a small local church, God had been really good to us, and I wanted to pass that particular moment on to you. Because some of you are long-timers, and you can think about how this trajectory has unfolded. Another layer of that I needed to convey. One of the guys that I took with me on this trip was a man named Ron Boonsma, who is the pastor of a church in Pasadena, Sovereign Grace Pasadena. And that church actually started Providence 23 years ago. It was the church that planted Providence something like 23 years ago. So that was happening simultaneously. And then one other thing that's not as magical that I want to reference is, in June, myself and Josh Montague, my friend who leads these trips, he and I are kind of the two of the primary people Josh leads, he and I are going to do, we're going to start teaching you the method that we're using with the Philippians. And so we will actually have a seminar, a weekend seminar in June, where we can start teaching local churches how to read the Bible in the same way we're teaching senior pastors, and so on and so forth. So that's all very exciting.
1 · The pastor reads Ephesians 4:11-16 aloud in full and pauses mid-reading to highlight the word 'rather' in verse 15, noting it signals a binary choice — either instability or growth in Christ
Open your Bibles to the book of Ephesians, chapter 4. Chapter 4, verse 11. We read this and then we'll pray. And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, let me pause there just to point out this word. I don't know if I'll return to it. The word rather here means, in essence, you have two choices. Either you're going to be tossed to and fro by every wind and wave, or you can do the thing that comes after. Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow, so that it builds itself up in love.
2 · The opening prayer thanks God for both surface blessings and deep trials, framing both as means by which the congregation sees more of Christ
Let's pray. Father God, we thank you for your word, and we thank you for all the many ways you have been so kind to us, Father. Father, not simply through kind of, you know, the nice frothy blessings that everybody enjoys, the cotton candy level blessings. We're grateful for those. They're great. But also, God, thank you for the deeper, harder things you've had us walk through as individuals, as friends, as a church, because in all of these layers of your blessings, God, you keep showing us more and more of Christ. And it's him, Lord, that we want to grow up into. We pray, God, that you would continue that work even in this sermon. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
3 · The pastor introduces the sermon's central thesis by arguing that growth is not inherently good — it must be assessed qualitatively, not just quantitatively
Well, this passage has a lot to say about growth. The word growth appears twice in this particular passage, and it appears elsewhere in the book of Ephesians as well. I would say when I was younger, hearing the word growth always kind of just immediately went to the positive. When I hear something's growing, I think, oh, good. That sounds good. But I feel like as I've gotten older, I hear the word growth more like the way a dermatologist hears the word growth. You know, maybe even sometimes the way an oncologist hears the word growth. It's not, I still think it's probably mostly a positive word in my heart, but not nearly as positive as it used to be. I feel like a lot of us have seen things grow and then just shrivel. A lot of things grow in ways that weren't good, that maybe we thought they were good initially. And, you know, Jesus is so good. Like, this is a category he covers. I'm not sure we're always paying attention, but this is a category he covers in the Gospels all the time. His parable of the sowers is really meant to temper our hearts to understand that not all growth winds up being good. Not all growth winds up being true. Not all growth winds up being good. And yet, I think the point of that parable is that some growth is good. There's a certain kind of growth that is good. All that to say, as I've gotten older, like in a lot of other areas, is the concept of growth itself, it's just more nuanced than it used to be. And that definitely pertains to the concept of church growth.
4 · The pastor narrates his own journey from naive enthusiasm about church growth strategies to a more discerning, 'dermatological' posture
I remember Angela was pregnant with Sarah or Brooke, and I was in a Bible class where this slick professor, he wasn't really a professor, he was a pastor, they brought in to teach a class. It was a church growth class. And he was teaching us through Purpose Driven Church by Rick Warren. And I'm 20 years old, and I'm reading this, and I'm thinking, it's all so simple. Why doesn't everybody just do this? And then all the churches would grow. So I started at a very simplistic, Pollyannish kind of way of thinking about church growth, and have sensed, I would say, I'm probably very dermatological in my understanding of church growth now. There's lots of growth that ain't any good. But there's still some growth that is.
5 · The pastor expounds Ephesians 4:11's list of offices, identifying the three kinds of growth each implies: numerical (evangelists), relational (shepherds), and theological (teachers)
And that's kind of what this passage is doing for us. It's telling us what kind of growth is good. If you look back at verse 11, we have this list of offices, list of officers in the church. And I mean, especially like the last three, they all point to particular kinds of growth. Evangelist, well, that keys in my mind, numerical growth. Shepherds, that keys in my mind, relational growth. A shepherd is someone who keeps the sheep together, because the sheep are supposed to be together. Teachers, that makes me think of theological growth.
Recent preaching context
The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.
Discuss · apply · pray
6 questions for your group this week
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In Ephesians 4:11-16, Paul describes different gifts given to the church—apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers. What does Paul say is the ultimate purpose of these gifts, and how does that purpose shape what 'growth' actually means for a church?Ephesians 4:11-13→ When you think about growth in our own church or your own life, how often do you measure it by whether Christ is becoming more central, versus measuring it by other metrics?
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The sermon claims that 'not all growth is good'—that numerical, relational, and theological growth can all be empty or even harmful if Christ is not their substance. Can you think of an example from Scripture or from life where growth in one of those areas actually moved people away from Christ rather than toward him?Matthew 7:24-27
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Paul writes in Ephesians 4:15 that we are to speak 'the truth in love' and 'grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.' What does it mean practically for our speech—in small groups, at home, in conflict—to be shaped by growing 'into Christ' rather than just being 'truthful' or 'loving' in isolation?Ephesians 4:15→ What would change in how we talk to one another if we were consciously asking, 'Does this conversation draw us toward Christ or away from him?'
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The sermon identifies a potential blind spot for Providence: we are discerning about numerical growth but may uncritically accept relational and theological growth as automatic goods. In what ways might a small group, a marriage, or even a person's biblical knowledge grow without that growth actually producing Christ-likeness or deeper love?
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In 1 John 3:16, John writes, 'By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for one another.' The sermon teaches that Christian love is fundamentally commitment—like Christ's eternal commitment to us demonstrated in his sacrifice. Where in your relationships right now is the Lord calling you to deepen your covenantal commitment, and what would that actually cost you?1 John 3:16→ How does understanding Christ's commitment to you—that he gave his life for you—change what you're willing to give up for others?
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The sermon argues that helping others become Christ-centered is 'an urgent act of love, not optional.' In your life this week—whether as a parent, a friend, a spouse, or a leader—where is there an opportunity to help someone see Christ more clearly or move toward him more intentionally? What would that look like?Philippians 3
5-day reading plan
This week we examine five cross-references that deepen our understanding of Christ as the substance, standard, source, and goal of all church growth—moving from the foundation of Christ's lordship through the markers of genuine maturity.
Jesus teaches that two builders may both construct, yet only one builds on the rock of His word. The sermon's insistence that Christ must be the substance of all growth mirrors this parable: a church can grow numerically, relationally, or theologically while remaining unmoored from Christ, like a house built on sand. We are called to measure our growth not by its visibility but by whether it stands upon Christ as the foundation.
Paul counts all his former accomplishments as rubbish compared to the surpassing worth of knowing Christ (Phil. 3:8). This reframes what maturity means for us: we cannot claim to have grown in Christ while remaining impressed by credentials, success, or relational achievement apart from Christ-likeness. The standard shifts entirely—our maturity is not measured by what we have attained, but by how we increasingly resemble and are shaped by our Savior.
Peter reminds us that we are a chosen people called to proclaim the excellencies of Christ (1 Peter 2:9). This clarifies why the sermon insists that the fundamental test of a church leader is whether they show people Christ: we are not called to promote ourselves, our programs, or even the church as an institution, but to make Christ visible and central in all we do. Our leadership fails at its core if it does anything other than direct people toward Him.
John declares that we know love because Christ laid down His life for us, and we ought to do the same for one another (1 John 3:16). This moves us beyond sentiment: commitment to Christ and to one another is not a feeling but a costly pledge, modeled on Christ's irrevocable sacrifice. As we grow in Christ, we grow in the willingness to bind ourselves covenantally to His people, just as He bound Himself to us.
John teaches that love is defined by Christ's initiative toward us: He loved us and sent His Son as propitiation for our sins (1 John 4:10). This frames our urgency to help others grow in Christ not as extra discipleship but as the overflow of having been loved at infinite cost. We cannot remain silent or complacent about relational and theological growth that bypasses Christ; to do so is to withhold the very love by which we ourselves have been remade.
Christ, Our Substance and Standard
Father, we come before you in awe of your Son, Jesus Christ—the head of the church, the substance of all true growth, and the standard by which we measure everything we are and do. We confess that we often drift toward evaluating our lives and our congregation by metrics that are not rooted in him. We have caught ourselves celebrating relational and theological growth without asking whether it draws us closer to Christ-likeness, and we have accepted progress in our own lives without testing whether it makes us more like our Savior. We have spoken carelessly, committed conditionally, and led others without pointing them consistently toward Jesus. Forgive us for these blind spots that threaten to undermine the very foundation of our fellowship.
Yet we rejoice that in the gospel, Christ is both the substance and the source of all true growth (Ephesians 4:15-16). He is the living Word who speaks to us, the perfect standard against which all maturity is measured, and the one whose finished work on our behalf means our growth is not earned but enabled by grace. The cross humbles us and compels us to align everything—our words, our commitments, our relationships, our leadership—with his kingdom.
We ask you, by your Spirit, to make us a church where Christ is visible in every direction. Grant our leaders the wisdom to show people Jesus and lead them to Jesus in all they teach and model. Soften our hearts toward one another so that we speak with Christ-like tenderness and commit to one another with the covenantal faithfulness Jesus himself modeled on the cross (1 John 3:16). Help us measure growth—in our families, our friendships, our own maturity—not by the world's standards but by our conformity to him. Make us discerning not only about numbers, but about whether our relational bonds and theological convictions are drawing the body deeper into the life of Christ.
To you, O God—Father, Son, and Spirit—be all glory, as together we grow into the full stature of Christ, who is our head, our hope, and our all in all.
What Makes Growth Real?
This card invites your family to think concretely about what 'growing' actually means — not just getting bigger or doing more, but becoming more like Jesus. Listen for how your kids understand maturity; you'll likely hear their instincts point toward character and love.
The sermon said that not all growth is good — a church could get bigger, have more friendships, or learn more Bible facts, but still not be growing in the way that matters most. If you were going to measure whether someone (maybe yourself, maybe our church) is really growing the right way, what would you look for? What would you actually see or notice?
Growth in Christ Together
- What specific area of your own life—whether in your character, your faith, or your relationships—did the sermon challenge you to measure by Christ-likeness rather than by other standards you've been using?
- Where might we, as a couple, have accepted relational or spiritual growth between us without asking whether it's actually drawing us closer to Christ and His character—and how might we start asking that question together?
- What is one way you see Christ-like love, commitment, or sacrifice that you want to grow into, and how can I pray for that growth in you this week?
Ephesians 4:15-16
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.
Why this verse: This verse captures the sermon's central thesis: all growth—whether numerical, relational, or theological—must be growth *into Christ* as the substance, standard, and source. It establishes Christ as the head toward whom the church grows and identifies the mechanism by which genuine growth occurs, making it the theological anchor for evaluating what kinds of growth are truly good.
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