To be able to address the creator of all things as father and know that Lord you are not simply like a good father you are the perfection of all the virtues that indicate fatherhood Lord you are kind you are strong you are capable you are patient. None of us have had a father like you. Lord God we pray that in your kindness Lord we pray that these with these truths these marvelous truths would land in our hearts and be ballast in our storms. God please you have so many good things for us to trust in and to hope in. Help them land in our hearts father. Even today as we open your word help it land on our hearts. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.
You can be seated. We'll dismiss our kids to children's ministry and we are in Ecclesiastes chapter 9. This morning we've been closing out the book of Ecclesiastes with a little mini series we're calling Do Eden Anyway.
And we've identified that after running the experiment to see what is good for a man to do. The preacher philosopher Kohileth has decided that in reality with all of the unfairness and uncertainty and difficulties in this world in reality the stuff we ought to be doing is the stuff we know God made us to do all along. And that is to walk with God and worship. That is to do our work in in the life that God has given us to be faithful to those that God has placed in our lives and to end each day to celebrate to be grateful in each day. I call it crown each day with a sense of gratitude and accomplishment for what the Lord has done.
So we're working through these four categories. Work or worship, work, wife, and wine. Wine is really going to be next week talking all about how to celebrate God's faithfulness, how to tend each day as a gift and so forth. And today we are going to talk about wife. Wife here is a stand-in for spouse. The text that we're going to be working from is in Ecclesiastes 9, 7, I believe, uses the word wife. But I'm not going to ask the ladies to do, you know, conversion math in their head all day today. So we're just going to use spouse. It's really just a reference for caring for the person that God has placed in your life in that respect.
Well, let me start out by reading a letter dated March 2nd, 1837.
A father is writing to his son. The son's 18 years old. He's brilliant. He's already at university. Everybody knows that he's smart. And the father writes this to the son. Is your heart in accord with your head and your talents? Has it room for the earthly but gentler sentiments, which in this veil of sorrow are so essentially consoling for a man of feeling? He goes on and says, And since that heart is obviously animated and governed by a demon, he just means a spirit. It's written in German originally. And not granted to all men, is that demon heavenly or Faustian? He says, I can tell there's a spirit in you that's unique. He's like, I can't tell what of this spirit is an angel or the spirit of Faust. And then he writes this. Will you ever, and that is not the least painful doubt of my heart, will you ever be capable of truly human domestic happiness? Will you ever be capable of human domestic happiness? In other words, will you ever be able to do Eden anyway? Will you ever be able, as brilliant as you are, as complex as you are, will you ever actually just be able to have a happy relationship, a happy home life? Will you, he asks, be capable of imparting happiness to those immediately around you? and that's actually a letter written to Karl Marx from his father.
6 · Completes the Karl Marx illustration by showing that he was indeed not capable of domestic happiness—his wife gave everything and he bled her dry
And if you want to know how that played out, the answer is is that he was not capable of domestic happiness. The prettiest woman on campus who had many options of higher class in terms of socioeconomic class than Marx fell in love with Karl and she became his number one fan and he slowly bled her dry with a hard life, poverty. That wife lived in the pawn shop trying to just get food for the kids and she gave him multiple children, all of her money, all of her devotion, everything. He cheated on her anyway. So Karl Marx's home life is as you might expect. It's very parasitic.
7 · Diagnoses the fallen human tendency to approach marriage with a consumeristic mindset—looking for someone who will make us happy rather than someone we can invest in
In reality, most of us are unfortunately more prone to feeding off of other people than we are feeding them. And so for most of us, marriage, as we enter into it, at least on the front end, begins to be a question about who can I find that will make me happy? We take a very consumeristic mindset to marriage. And really, we have to see that that doesn't work and that the Bible is quite clear about this, actually.
8 · Reads the primary text (Ecclesiastes 9:7-10) aloud, which commands eating with joy, drinking with a merry heart, enjoying life with the wife you love, and doing all work with all your might
Now, Ecclesiastes 9, 7 through 10, let's read it first together. Ecclesiastes 9, 7 through 10, Go eat your bread with joy and drink your wine with a merry heart for God has already approved what you do. Let your garments be always white, let not oil be lacking on your head. Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your petition in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom and shoal to which you are going.
9 · Argues that the concept of enjoying life with your spouse is under-discussed in churches because growing churches often prioritize ministry service over giving fuel for contentment and protecting evening hours for marriage and home development
You know, the concept of enjoying life with your spouse, that single little concept I think is massively under discussed in church because in, for many respects, growing churches run on volunteers who are walking attention between home life and serving in the nursery or whatever. And so there is not a lot of attention paid to just giving people fuel for contentment and emphasizing those evening hours as being the Lord's and for the development of a marriage and for the development of a home and these other issues, while important, are secondary to those things.
10 · Claims that wisdom literature uniquely loves and reveres domestic life, repeatedly pointing the reader back to the family and the home as the smallest unit of God's institutions
Actually, I would say that domestic life is essentially uniquely loved in wisdom literature. the home life, especially the marriage, is exceptionally revered, pointed out to, pointed to in wisdom literature. In other words, when the Bible writes a bunch of stuff about wisdom, it keeps pointing us back to the smallest unit of God's institutions, the family, the home. It just comes up over and over again.
11 · Demonstrates canonical reading by observing that Ecclesiastes is sandwiched between Proverbs 31 (on the virtuous wife) and Song of Solomon (an entire book on marital love), showing that near the center of the Bible God says: worship me, do good work, and love your wife
In fact, I want to point you out to this. If you read the Bible canonically, and all that means when you're talking about reading the Bible canonically, and it's a good thing to learn to do, and it's just paying attention to the way that the books are ordered, pay attention to the way that the Psalms are ordered, pay attention to the fact that Ecclesiastes is essentially this great experiment run, what should man do? And he says here in kind of the crescendo of the entire book, enjoy your wife. Right? So when you read canonically, you'll notice things. And what you'd notice in this case is is that up against Ecclesiastes' crescendo, coming before it is Proverbs 31, and coming after it is Song of Solomon. There is actually a quiet payload waiting for people who will slow down and pay attention, in which God, nearly the center of his Bible, says, worship me, do good work, and love your wife. The entire book of the Bible, Song of Solomon, is devoted to just that. The entire chapter at the end of the wisdom literature is devoted to that in particular. And again, when I say wife, I sometimes, I mean spouse.
12 · Expounds Ecclesiastes 9:7-9 by observing that every object of enjoyment listed (bread, wine, oil, garments) requires significant investment before it can be enjoyed
Now, if you'll go back to that text, I think it's important to understand that before we can enjoy our spouse, we have to develop our spouse. This is a very interesting concept for some of us because we're used to just everything coming prepackaged, including people. Go back to verse 7, Ecclesiastes 9, and look. Go eat your bread with joy and drink your wine with a merry heart, for God has already approved what you do. Let your garments always be white. Let not oil be lacking on your head. Enjoy life with the wife you love. Now, let's start at verse 7 and just start listing the objects of enjoyment. Bread. Are there loaves of bread just waiting out in a field to pick up and enjoy? Are there trees that have wine taps on them? I thought of this image, I thought, well, that would be really cool. Is there a chardonnay tree, you know? A muscato tree? No. Are there just, like, vats of olive oil sitting around that you grab and put on your face that says to always wear white? It's just a celebratory kind of idea of, like, wear your nice shirt. Is there just linen lying around? No. Well, every single one of these things that you're being called to enjoy require a significant amount of investment before they are the thing you're called to enjoy. There's an enormous amount of effort put into turning a grape into wine or some wheat kernels into bread or olives into oil.
13 · Asserts the sermon's governing principle: the call to enjoyment is also the call to investment
And so, the call to enjoyment is also the call to investment. And the wife or the husband is no different. We have to come to terms with the fact that the spouse we would enjoy becomes enjoyable only when we express commitment, investment, and effort. The thing we long for in our marriage comes the way that anything else in this list comes for. Careful, thoughtful, wise, nurturing, tending, and investment.
14 · Personal testimony illustrating that the pastor loves being around his wife after 31 years because he has tended to the relationship, and observing that unenjoyable spouses are those who have not been tended to
I will just tell you this straight up. I've been married 31 years. My wife is a, I love being around my wife, but that is in large part because I have tended to that relationship. And if you want to find a wife who's not enjoyable to be around, you can find them, actually. And they're the ones whose husbands didn't tend to the relationship. They're men who are enjoyable to be around, great men that their wives love being around, but those are men who have been invested in with commitment and care and thoughtfulness for years.
15 · Signals structural shift by summarizing the principle (call to enjoyment = call to investment) and previewing that the sermon will now move to the 'how to' of investing in your spouse, which must be inferred from Scripture just as 'how to get a job' is inferred
So let's be clear as we start off that the call to enjoyment is built in with a call to investment. As I've mentioned before, you know, in the Bible there are places like this where you are told to do something, but you're not given the exact process for doing so. We talked about this in Ephesians when Paul tells the thief, don't steal anymore, go get a job. Well, the how to go get a job section of scripture is a little bit more diffused and inferred than there's like not a straight like three verses on how to go get a job. And so what I'm going to do today is I'm going to actually do the same with how to invest in your spouse, how to tend to your spouse like you would a vineyard.
16 · Develops the garden metaphor from Song of Solomon: a spouse is a garden within a garden that must be tended, cared for, watered, protected, and paid attention to
In fact, I think of a spouse as essentially a garden within a garden. That's not my metaphor. The Bible says it that way as well. Song of Solomon is all about the garden language. The husband looks at his bride and says a garden locked is my sister, my bride, a garden. And she answers, let my beloved come to his garden. And he does. I came to my garden, my sister, my bride. The married couple in scripture talk to each other as if they are things that are tended to and cared for. And cultivated. What do you do with a garden? Well, whatever you get out of it is really just a downstream effect of what you put into it. You tend to it. You look after it. You water it. You protect it. You pay attention to it. By the way, the sheer existence of a garden means that predators will come, predators and scavengers will come lurking. So as you invest in your spouse garden, you have to understand that you've also got things lurking out there to try to take the fruits that you're trying to cultivate. It's a whole thing. It's a whole job.
17 · Applies Proverbs 24:27 to the marriage context: make your spouse the first priority because that garden will keep feeding you while you do all your other work
Proverbs 24, 27 says, prepare your work outside. Get everything ready for yourself in the field and after that build your tower. I want to challenge you this morning to understand that if all of the things that need tending to, the one you should put first always is your spouse. That's the garden that will keep feeding you while you do all your other work. The work put in first is the work on the thing that will feed you while you're doing it. The thing that will grow while you're doing all the work. The thing that will feed you when you're done doing your work. And I will tell you as just pastoral wisdom, make your spouse your priority. Make their soul your priority. Make their heart, their mind your priority. Tend to that garden first.
18 · Pastoral aside addressing a common misconception: you don't need to wait until your house is in order to get married—the spouse is the one who will help you get your house in order
I also would tell you and some of you think this and I'm just going to tell you I disagree. If you think that you should have to wait to get married to get your house in order, no. The thing that will help you get your house in order is the spouse that you procure and invest in. So no, don't, your spouse is there to help you get the rest of it in order. The garden that gets the central attention in our lives is that person that God has given us as a co-heir of grace.
19 · Signals the next major section: the 'how to' of tending to your spouse, which will be drawn from Ephesians 5
Now, let's move on to start talking about how to do that. What does it look like to tend to and cultivate and care for a spouse? Well, I think one hint lies in Ephesians 5.
20 · Expounds Ephesians 5:25-26 to show that Jesus tends to the church through words (the word of God), and this is the main way we should tend to our spouses consistently throughout the years
In Ephesians 5, we're told explicitly how Jesus tends after the church. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. And then watch what happens in verse 26. I think the main way that we tend to our spouses consistently throughout the years is through our speech, through words. Specifically, the word of God, the word of the gospel, but more than that also.
21 · Applies the principle from Ephesians 5: the main way to tend to your spouse is words—the word of God applied to your spouse on a regular basis
What I'm saying, guys, tend to your spouse. It's the first priority, and it's the gift that keeps on giving. Whoever tends to his spouse loves himself. To paraphrase another piece of Ephesians 5. And I'm saying the main way to tend to your spouse is what we see here with Jesus. Words. The word of God applied to your spouse on a regular basis is the thing that will make them grow into the person that you can enjoy for your whole life.
22 · Cites 2 Timothy 3:16-17 to show that the kinds of words that tend to a spouse are words profitable for teaching, reproof, correction, and training in righteousness
What kind of words do you use to tend to your spouse? Well, 2 Timothy 3. 16 through 17 tells us that all scriptures breathed out by God and profitable for teaching and reproof and correction and training in righteousness. Those kinds of words would be a good start. Your marriage ought to be the one place where the word of God is constantly exchanged freely, consistently, thoughtfully. You develop eventually if you build, both of you build your marriage on the word of God. And I mean a deep love of God, the word of God, by the way. What you'll find is that even your jokes start having scripture references in them, at least my wife and I. Like, it's just inevitable. Build your garden on the word. It's the one thing that feeds every part of the soul. Build your marriage on the word.
23 · Applies the pattern of Christ's speech to the church: while Jesus does issue admonition and exhortation, overwhelmingly His words are 'I love you' and 'the Father loves you
Specifically, though, I would tell you that if you look at how Jesus speaks to his church, he does issue words of admonition and exhortation. He warns because he's watching and he knows. Shocking. Pay attention. Pay attention to your spouse's soul. He knows them. He warns them. But overwhelmingly, the words that Jesus speaks to his church are just, I love you. And the Father loves you. The number one thing that every marriage needs more of in this room is that we would recite the gospel to one another and remind one another that they are loved and accepted by the God of the universe through Jesus Christ. The gospel ought to be spoken between husband and wife and wife and husband.
24 · Applies the principle concretely: the kindest thing you can do for your spouse is to remind them that Jesus bought their soul and will complete the work He began in them
Before we get to love languages and affirmations and all these other things, the reality is this. Every single person in this room both knows that God loves them in theory and struggles to believe it deep down and and and all of your dumb things come out of this. The kindest, most consistent thing you can do for your husband is to remind them that Jesus bought their soul and that he who began a good work in him will carry it on to the day of completion. the kindest thing a man can tell his wife is that the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end has taken up interest in them and has chosen them before the foundation of the world so that they could experience God's eternal kindness lavished upon them for eternity. Speak the gospel to one another. That's how you'll tend to your garden spouse. Speak the gospel and believe the gospel for one another.
25 · Applies the principle with personal illustration: we need to feed our spouses the promises of God constantly, applying them to particular problems and questions
Secondly, I would say promises. Don't just tell them that God loves them. Tell them that God is faithful and he's trustworthy. I don't know if you guys know this about my wife but I have a very snacky wife. The main thing I've noticed traveling with her for three decades is that the hour before the meal we will begin discussing plans for the meal. She just kind of got that hummingbird metabolism and she just kind of needs snacks. She's got to keep feeding the girl snacks as she works throughout the day. And friends, I will tell you I've done a lot of marriage counseling and I will tell you that we need our spouse to feed us the promises of God all the time because in reality here's what's happening. this is one of the main things I've done for my wife for 30 years. She knows that God is faithful and she needs to be reminded that God is faithful over this thing, over that thing. She knows God is faithful. She needs it applied to every situation that we're developing. So words of love, you are loved and accepted, words of promise applied to particular problems and questions. Even when we're trying to figure something out and it's fully our responsibility to figure it out, it is still good to season even those conversations with reminders. God's got this. We're just trying to figure out how to not be dumb on our side. We want to take our responsibility seriously, but ultimately God has this. Speaking that over and over and over again transforms a person. We need to hear it over and over and over again. So we need to tell our spouses that God loves them. We need to tell our spouses that God's got this.
26 · Applies the principle with three layers of speech needed in marriage: (1) speak the gospel, (2) speak your own personal love, and (3) communicate actual desire for your spouse consistently
And then we need to remind them that we are part of that same covenant. You can tell your spouse something like this. God loves you more than me, but just barely. That's obviously heresy, but what you ought to be able to say is something like this. I'm not just telling you I love you. I know what love is because I'm a student of the gospel of Jesus Christ and by this we know love. You should be demonstrating consistently that you understand the love of God and that you apply it to her and that you are experiencing God's love for her even consistently. And so I don't think it's at all by the way. I don't think I think you need to understand Song of Solomon is after Ecclesiastes because fundamentally if you want to do the things you're called to do as a human being you need to spend a lot more time saying good things to your wife or your husband. It needs to be a very intentional exercise. And the romance language in Song of Solomon is not accidental peripheral or optional. Speak the gospel. Speak your own personal love. Also communicate actual desire for your spouse consistently. And if you communicate those things you're tending to a garden and that garden will grow and it will feed you and you will be so glad that you invested in it. But if you fail to do these things don't come to me ten years later and ask why isn't my marriage what I want it to be? Friends, like people say follow the money the truth is follow the work. Everything that isn't what you want it to be today I would always ask what did you do about it? What can you do about it? What should you have done about it? And there's usually a lot there's not always but there's usually a lot of answers there.
27 · Expounds Proverbs 31 as an acrostic poem (A to Z in Hebrew), demonstrating that praising your spouse requires deliberate effort
The final thing I'd encourage you to realize is that the praise in Proverbs 31 it's essentially this you know this verbal cathedral to feminine glories and I want you to know that it's an acrostic it's an A to Z in other words this wasn't just some kind of thing that overflowed in fact it was from King Lemuel's mom that it originally came forth but what I want you to know just generally about language in the Old Testament in particular is people sat down and made an effort Proverbs 31 is an effort it starts with the first letter of the Hebrew alphabet and it continues and moves and moves and moves and it's listing all of the glories of this wife according to the Hebrew alphabet in other words this is the kind of thing you sometimes just sit down and do you sit down and you put forth effort to let your spouse know that you love them that you desire them that God loves them that they are safe that God's promises are not in vain toward them effort effort effort tend to the garden
28 · Qualifies the application with two warnings: (1) never flatter (Proverbs 26:28 says flattering lips work ruin), and (2) never be a word-only person (1 John 3:18 says love in deed and truth, not just words)
a couple qualifiers here number one never flatter another time many marriages are really broken because somebody has been flattering somebody for a very long time the truth has been withheld and even active lies have taken place I just want to remind you that Proverbs 26 28 says that flattering lips work ruin flattering lips work ruin you think you're just being nice and passing on this or that well maybe you need to be gentle maybe you need to be positive maybe you need to be careful and so forth but avoiding hard conversations and saying untrue things about your spouse is just actually working ruin it'll just come later and I also want to remind you of 1 John 3 never be a word only person I believe that words are biblically I think there's kind of levels of this being obvious biblically use words use words to bless your spouse but the Bible is also careful to say things like this little children let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth meaning don't only be a word person your words won't matter at all if you don't actually live a life that backs up those words
29 · Recommends a practical resource: the book 'Practicing Affirmation' by Sam Crabtree as a tool for learning how to affirm and encourage those closest to us
so I would tell you that as a resource we are just consistently finding that almost everybody benefits from reading studying and applying the book Practicing Affirmation by Sam Crabtree it's absolutely a resource I'd point you to it's just something we struggle with how to affirm encourage those closest to us and so that's a book I would totally look up and buy and just have handy and read and reread
30 · Signals structural shift from investment to enjoyment
now the outcome of all of this investment is as our text says enjoyment we're actually told to enjoy and so let's talk a little bit about what that looks like
31 · Develops the theological claim that a spouse is someone to do the celebrating with, drawing on C
finding a spouse is a tremendous treasure not only because your spouse gives you someone to do the work with but mostly I think you have your spouse as someone to do the celebrating with Lewis in his book on the Psalms was wrestling with a question that bothered him why does God keep commanding everybody to praise him and while chewing on it he noticed something about how joy actually works he noticed that the world rings with praise lovers can't shut up about their beloveds readers about their favorite authors hikers about the view fans about the game and he realized that that's not a decoration that's the terminus the ending point of enjoyment praising something is the end of the enjoying process delight isn't finished until it's shared with someone else and then he describes the other side of the ache and you guys have all felt this you've read a book and you had no one to tell or you've been around a bend in the road and saw something beautiful and there's no one to share it with had a great meal and the people that you wish you had that meal with weren't there if you've ever traveled on business you know exactly and you're married you know exactly what this is like you're seeing all these things you're experiencing all these things you're like man the person that I tell oh look at that that's cool or look at that that's weird or look at that that's gross that person isn't with me
32 · Interprets the creation of Eve in Genesis 2: God saw Adam was alone and said 'that's not going to work' not only because Adam needed a partner to fulfill the mandate, but also because we need a partner to praise with—to celebrate God's goodness and faithfulness with
you know when when God looked down at Adam and saw that he was alone and said well that's not going to work it was in part because he needed a partner to fulfill the mandate God had given him but I believe it's also because he knew that we need a partner to praise with we need a person to celebrate with we need a person to say oh my goodness look at God and look how good he's being to us and look how faithful he's being to us
33 · Applies the principle of enjoying your spouse by warning against negative talk in the home
and this is the final piece of counsel I want to share related to enjoying your spouse you must keep a close watch on the negative talk in your home there are so many layers of this that you might not even notice some people try to differentiate how hard they've worked by how tired they are or how hard the job was you know we all have hard jobs we do I don't need my home to be full of accentuations of the negative of course if things are difficult we talk about them but we always even then remind ourselves God is faithful God has been good to us God has been kind but by and large especially men as you manage homes that are growing with kids negativity grumbling complaint you're allowing your home to be filled with gases that aren't good for your people's souls
34 · Applies 1 Peter 3:7's phrase 'co-heirs of the grace of life' as all the marriage counsel you'll ever need
you were probably almost certainly joined together with the person that you're with to do good work together and the main good work is to praise God I'm going to be as cheesy as possible here because you'll remember it but that person that you're married to is your praise partner your main thing out of all the things you can do together your main thing is to be co-heirs of the grace of life your main thing is to say God is so good your main thing is to praise with one another that's how Peter challenges husbands and he's writing actually to husbands and wives in this section but he uses the phrase that I believe if you would just meditate and act upon is all the marriage counsel you'll ever need and that is co-heirs of the grace of life if you want to know what it means to be married in the way that God wants you to be married it's that you have this person that you're doing life with and you're both moving toward death going to die it's going to be it one day and then you're going to face your God and the absolute dream of every Christian spouse in this room ought to be Lord may that day when they face their maker be a better day because they were married to me that's the heart of Ephesians and Jesus laying down his life and washing his bride with the word the heart of that is so that he might present her to himself pure and unblemished and without spot and so if you would just reorient what a wife is for and what a husband is for as this God give me a person I can love and tend to like a garden who will of course take care of me in all the ways that gardens do but Lord ultimately is it possible that you would allow me one day to present my wife or my husband to you as someone who loves you more as someone who is more confident in you as someone who grew and expressed her God given or his God given calling is it possible that you would give me someone that I could help become more and more like you year after year after year of our blessed union and in this way one day be co-heirs of the grace of life
35 · Illustrates the sermon's vision of marriage through Jonathan Edwards's deathbed message to his wife: our marriage has been deeply spiritual, and I trust that spiritual part will continue after this life is over
as Jonathan Edwards was slowly succumbing to the disease that would take his life he was too far away from his beloved wife to talk to her couldn't call her FaceTime wasn't around yet but he's lying perishing and his daughter one of his daughters is present and he says would you give my wife a message and he said of course dad and he said would you tell her that our marriage has been deeply spiritual it has been a spiritual relationship and I trust that that spiritual part will continue after this life is over in other words you have been my soul friend you have been a friend to my soul we have partaken in Christ together we have partaken in grace together we have partaken in the promises of God together and now one day when we pass from this life to the next all of that investment will keep producing dividends as we stand together before our maker
36 · Closing prayer thanking God for the gift of marriage and asking for faith to invest in godly pursuits, trust God with the return, and repent of making marriage about self
let's pray father god thank you for the gift of marriage it is absolutely tremendous blessing but it also calls us to become selfless caring attentive nurturing people it calls us away from all the worldliness that is baked into our hearts it calls us away from selfishness selfish ambition or it calls us away from so many things it calls us away from lust it calls us away from fault finding it calls us away from accusation it calls us to patience and kindness and all the fruits of the spirit there's really nothing like it and lord if you if we will cooperate with your spirit and love that other the way that you love them we will find a garden of delight waiting for us for years to come so father god please give us faith in you and your word that we can invest in good godly pursuits and trust you with the return lord i pray for anyone here who's single and doesn't want to be i ask god that you would also expunge any worldliness in their hearts that is keeping them from understanding that this most fundamentally this marriage thing is fundamentally about you and for you and ought to be processed that way let there be a repentance of making marriage about self that's a terrible way to start a marriage and it won't last in any good sense please god make through your holy spirit i'm trying to say things here but your holy spirit can just make those things true so we just pray that you would absolutely bless us in this area lord however our hearts need adjusting we pray god that you would do that adjustment in jesus name we pray amen
37 · Transitions to the communion service by connecting the sermon to the gospel that will be celebrated at the table
well standing on all of this is the great gospel of jesus christ that we'll celebrate today he has offered himself for us so that we can not only know that our souls are well but that we can get into the reconciliation business and lead others to the lord every day we're called to lead that person we wake up with back to the lord every day and so we're so grateful for this time of the table where we get to be remembered that god is constantly reminding us of the gospel he is constantly reminding us of the gospel so if you are a follower of jesus christ this morning would you come and grab the elements return to your table and we'll partake together