Comfort is Not a Compass

January 14, 2024 Pastor Chris Oswald
Thesis True Christian love does not use comfort as a compass but calls those we love to follow Christ wherever He leads, even into suffering.
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pastoralpropheticdidactic
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grammatical-historicalapplicatorycanonical
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The shape of the argument

43 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #39
"This unit applies the sermon's principle by giving concrete examples of what it looks like to call someone to follow Christ when it will cost them comfort: moving out of a girlfriend's apartment, switching to a flip phone, giving generously, confessing sin, leaving friends, not having an abortion, forgiving an abuser. The pastor frames all of this as 'I do love you. The best thing for you is to obey.'"
Doctrinal loci· 14 surfaced
Pastoral Theology · 14 Sanctification · 14 Soteriology · 12 Ethics / Moral Theology · 7 Christology · 5 Ecclesiology · 4 Hamartiology · 4 Pneumatology · 4 Theology Proper · 2 Bibliology · 1 Doxology / Worship · 1 Eschatology · 1 Providence / Sovereignty · 1 Spiritual Warfare · 1
Bible citations· 19
2 Timothy 1:1-7 | 2 Timothy 1:4 | 2 Timothy 1:6-7 | Hebrews 10:24 | 1 Timothy 4:12-14 | 2 Timothy 1:3-8 | 2 Timothy 4:9-11 | 2 Timothy 4:16 | 2 Timothy 1:7 | 2 Timothy 2:3 | 2 Timothy 4:2-5 | 2 Timothy 4:13 | 2 Timothy 4:14-15 | 2 Timothy 1:12 | 2 Timothy 4:8 | 1 John 4:14
Illustrations· 2
  1. personal story · unit #18 — This illustration uses the pastor's personal story of extreme sledding gone wrong — where he crashes and injures himself, then tells his friends they should try it — to make vivid the absurdity and power of Paul's call to Timothy: 'I'm broken, deserted, awaiting execution. You've really got to try this.'
  2. historical example · unit #36 — This illustration tells the story of a Catholic colonel in the Spanish Civil War who, when told by communists that they would kill his son unless he surrendered, told his son to commend his soul to God and die like a patriot. The son obeyed. The pastor uses this to illustrate the gospel — a father calling his son into death out of love.
Theological claims· 18
  1. Godly leadership requires that you genuinely feel affection for those you lead, not merely express it. unit #2
  2. Love is not merely responding to requests but involves spending mental energy thinking about others when unprompted. unit #3
  3. Sincere faith is not static but keeps growing, and requires our effort alongside what God has done. unit #6
  4. Christian friendship aims to stir one another up to faith and good deeds, seeking to fan sincere faith into flame. unit #7
  5. Spiritual gifts are either entirely new abilities given by God or existing capacities enhanced by the Spirit to honor Christ and love others. unit #10
  6. Second Timothy is fundamentally about calling someone to steward a gift faithfully even though doing so will lead to discomfort and suffering. unit #15
  7. The main idea of Second Timothy is 'share in the suffering of the gospel,' and the way Timothy will enter into that suffering is by faithfully using his teaching gift. unit #17
  8. Cowardice is a real temptation that Christians must normalize discussing, and Paul addresses it not as an accusation but as a loving warning about a temptation Timothy will face. unit #21
  9. Because life is spiritual war, the question is not whether to suffer but what you will suffer for; Paul is calling Timothy to choose to suffer for Christ. unit #23
  10. The world says asking someone to deny themselves and voluntarily suffer is not love, but Paul demonstrates that 'I love you, therefore join me in suffering' is a uniquely Christian idea. unit #24
  11. We use comfort as a compass — assuming comfort means we're headed in the right direction and discomfort means we're headed in the wrong direction — and this applies both to how we assess our own obedience and how we assess whether we are loving others well. unit #25
  12. Using comfort as a compass prevents gifts from being fanned into flame and leads ultimately to deconstruction when suffering comes and the compass tells you God is not good. unit #26
  13. The profundity of Second Timothy is that it shows genuine love and a call to imprisonment coexisting — Paul loves Timothy and therefore calls him to follow a path that will lead to suffering. unit #27
  14. Paul is convinced that disobedience to God is far worse for a person than the discomfort that obedience brings, and this conviction is the foundation of his call to Timothy. unit #29
  15. Paul believes he got the best deal possible by following Christ into suffering, and this conviction enables him to call Timothy into the same path with integrity. unit #32
  16. Paul uses Christ, not comfort, as his compass — and calling someone you love into discomfort you yourself have endured is key to Christianity. unit #35
  17. Timothy obeyed Paul's call to fan the gift into flame and died preaching Christ, and we must not allow cultural softness to cause us to jettison this ethic. unit #37
  18. The gospel is the story of a Father sending His Son to suffer for the salvation of the world, and Second Timothy unpacks that same pattern in Paul's call to Timothy. unit #40
Quotations· 3
"Because of our new birth and the precious promises and the divine power offered us in Christ, we cannot sit back and rest content with faith. The grace of God demands, as it enables effort in man. We are to bring into this relationship alongside what God has done, every ounce of determination we can muster." — One commentator on a similar passage in Second Peter (unit #6)
"I find it difficult to read this book without something like a mist forming in my eyes in chapter four." — An Anglican bishop (unit #18)
"I've never made a sacrifice." — David Livingston (unit #35)
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0 · The introduction establishes the primary text and sets the frame for the sermon by reading 2 Timothy 1:1-7, focusing on Paul's charge to Timothy to fan into flame the gift of God

Okay, onto our text in second Timothy. And we're going to read from verses one through eight to begin with. I'm sorry, verses one through seven to begin with. Paul, verse one. Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus by the will of God, according to the promise of the life that is in Christ Jesus. To Timothy, my beloved child. Grace, mercy and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord. I thank God whom I serve, as did my ancestors, with a clear conscience. As I remember you constantly in my prayers, night and day, as I remember your tears, I long to see you that I may be filled with joy. I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice. And now I am sure, dwells in you as well. For this reason, I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God gave us a spirit, not a fear, but of power, love and self control. So that's going to be the text that we're going to be working with today.

1 · This unit identifies a pattern in Second Timothy: Paul models godly leadership through affection, reflection, and direction

And there's a few preliminary observations that probably aren't the main idea of the text, but seem worth pointing out. The first one is we really do have in the book of second Timothy a pretty great glimpse, glimpse of what I would call fatherly leadership. But don't get hung up on the fatherly aspect of it. It's just a great glimpse of godly leadership. There are three things that Paul keeps doing throughout this book. He states his affection for Timothy. He feels real affection for Timothy. He is reflecting on Timothy and his situation and he's giving him specific direction.

2 · This unit makes a theological claim about the nature of godly leadership: authentic affection is more essential than mere affirmation

So one of the things I just don't want to miss is just this glimpse of leadership we see here that is rooted affection. I think a lot of times we would say that, you know, it's really important as a leader to affirm and so on and so forth and sure, that's fine. And Paul is speaking affectionately. But more importantly for leadership is that you feel real affection for the people you're leading. That's. People always talk about you talking about it. It's like, well, yes, talk about it. But most importantly, if you're going to lead someone, feel affectionate for them. And we see that in Paul's writing.

3 · This unit asserts that genuine love involves thinking about others when they are not present

Another mark of leadership and love is that Paul is thinking about Timothy when they are not together. Paul is thinking about Timothy when they are not together. Husbands, this is a big deal to most wives. They are. They are thankful that you do what, that you respond to your requests and so on and so forth. But if they begin to see, they would hope to begin to see that throughout the day. You are spending mental energy on them, completely unprompted now. And I don't think that's unreasonable. I actually just think that's what love is. Love is not simply showing up to do what is specifically requested. But as we see here, Paul in a very difficult situation is thinking about Timothy.

4 · This unit completes the exposition of the three leadership elements (affection, reflection, direction) by pointing to verse 4 and establishing that good leadership involves prayerful consideration of those being led

Not only is he expressing affection, but he's reflecting on Timothy verse, verse 4. As I remember your tears, I long to see you that I might be filled with joy. I'm reminded of your sincere faith. He's thinking about Timothy. One of the things that if you want to be a good leader, in my opinion, from what I see in the Bible anyway, is love. The people that you're called to lead, but also spend time thinking about them, both in prayer and just considering their lives, their situations, what would be a blessing to them, what challenges they may be facing, and so on and so forth. So we see affection and reflection and then we have direction. We have Paul being very bold in telling Timothy to do X, Y and Z.

5 · This transition signals a structural shift from the preliminary leadership observations to the main exegetical work of the sermon, focusing on Paul's direction to Timothy in verses 6-7

And we're going to spend most of our time today looking at the direction piece. The direction starts in verse 6. For this reason, I remind you, Paul says, for this reason, I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of hands. For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power and love and self control. So let's make a few observations about this passage. And what we're going to land on is we're going to try to figure out what this gift is that Paul's talking about. But let's hold off. There's a few other things to observe first.

Where this fits

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January 14 · This sermon
Comfort is Not a Compass
True Christian love does not use comfort as a compass but calls those we love to follow Christ wherever He leads, even into suffering.
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6 questions for your group this week

  1. What does Paul mean when he tells Timothy to 'fan into flame the gift of God' (2 Timothy 1:6)? What would it look like practically for Timothy to neglect this gift, and what would it look like to actively develop it?
    2 Timothy 1:6
    → Can you think of a spiritual gift God has given you that you sense could be developed further? What would it cost you to fan that gift into flame?
  2. The sermon argues that Paul is calling Timothy into a path of suffering, not away from it. How does Paul's language of love in 1:4 coexist with his call to embrace discomfort in 1:7-8?
    2 Timothy 1:4, 1:7-8
  3. The sermon introduces the idea that we often use 'comfort as a compass'—assuming comfort means we're headed rightly and discomfort means something is wrong. Where do you see this assumption operating in our culture, and where might you be prone to it yourself?
    → How might using comfort as a compass actually undermine our faithfulness to Christ?
  4. Paul addresses cowardice in 2 Timothy 1:7, not as an accusation but as a loving warning about a real temptation. Why do you think the apostle normalizes discussing this struggle rather than assuming Timothy would simply be brave?
    2 Timothy 1:7
    → What does it tell us about Christian leadership that Paul addresses a leader's inner fear so directly?
  5. According to the sermon, the gospel itself models the pattern Paul calls Timothy into: a Father sending His Son to suffer for the salvation of the world. How does understanding Christ's willing suffering reshape how we think about our own discomfort in obedience?
    → If the gospel is fundamentally about voluntary suffering for love, what does that mean for how we assess whether we are truly loving others?
  6. The sermon claims that genuine love sometimes means calling someone we care about into discomfort—like leaving a sinful relationship, forgiving an abuser, or abandoning a comfortable life to follow Christ. How do we distinguish this kind of love from harm, and what conviction must anchor such a call?
    → Who in your life might be called to uncomfortable obedience right now, and how could you speak that call with Paul's kind of love?
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we trace Paul's conviction that comfort cannot be our compass—that genuine love calls us to suffer with Christ, and that our gifts are meant to be fanned into flame regardless of the cost.

Monday 2 Timothy 1:12

Paul's declaration—'I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed'—reveals the bedrock conviction that shapes his entire call to Timothy. He has staked his life on Christ's trustworthiness, not on whether the path feels safe or comfortable. This is the compass we desperately need: not feelings, but allegiance to the One who proved His love through suffering.

Tuesday Hebrews 10:24

The call to 'provoke one another to love and good works' echoes Paul's charge to Timothy—and it costs us something. To genuinely spur others toward obedience often means inviting them into discomfort, not away from it. We cannot truly love one another if we use comfort as our metric for whether we're helping.

Wednesday 2 Timothy 2:3

Paul's command—'Share in suffering as a good soldier of Christ'—reframes suffering not as evidence of God's absence but as evidence that we're engaged in the real battle. Discomfort becomes the sign that we're fighting on the right side, not the wrong one. The gospel assumes we will be tested; the question is whether we will remain faithful when comfort offers an exit.

Thursday 2 Timothy 4:2-5

Paul's charge to 'preach the word, be ready in season and out of season' demands both urgency and endurance—especially when culture grows soft and rewards silence. Our gifts are not optional luxuries to deploy only when convenient; they are stewardships we must fan into flame through discipline and sacrifice. The discomfort of faithfulness is the price of fidelity.

Friday 1 John 4:14

Here is the ultimate shape of love: the Father did not protect His Son from the cross but sent Him into it for our redemption. Paul's call to Timothy mirrors this pattern—'I love you, therefore join me in suffering'—because the gospel teaches us that true love sometimes means inviting others into the hard path. We honor Christ by accepting that discomfort, not as punishment, but as participation in His redemptive work.

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Pray together this week

Grant Us a Compass of Christ

Father, we come before you in awe of your character—you are a God who calls those you love not away from suffering, but into it, for their ultimate good and your glory. You sent your Son not to comfort us into heaven, but to suffer redemptively for our salvation, and you call us to follow Him into the same pattern of costly obedience (2 Timothy 1:7-8). We confess that we have made comfort our compass. We have assumed that your approval rests on our ease, that discomfort signals we are walking away from you, and that true love means sparing those we care for from the hard path of obedience. We have been tempted to shrink back from using the gifts you have given us at full strength, to avoid the suffering that faithful stewardship requires, and to let cultural softness rob us of the conviction that "disobedience to God is far worse than the discomfort that obedience brings."

But the gospel humbles and reorients us. In Christ, we have a Savior who chose the cross, who calls us to deny ourselves and take up our cross, and who assures us that this path—though hard—leads to life (2 Timothy 1:12). Paul's love for Timothy was demonstrated not by sparing him suffering, but by calling him to faithful suffering. Your love for us was shown not by keeping us comfortable, but by sending your Son to be tortured for our redemption. Grant us grace to use Christ, not comfort, as our compass. Strengthen us to fan our gifts into flame, even when doing so requires us to say no to ease and yes to obedience (2 Timothy 1:6). Give us the conviction that Paul possessed—that we have gotten the best deal possible by following Christ—so that we might call those we love into discomfort with integrity and tenderness. Make us a people who encourage one another toward faithful suffering, who prize obedience over comfort, and who measure success not by how painless our lives are but by how faithfully we steward the gifts you have entrusted to us.

We commit ourselves, as your corporate people, to this countercultural ethic. We will not let cultural softness cause us to jettison the call to take up our cross. To your name alone be the glory, now and forever.

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Sunday-evening family table

What's Your Compass?

For the parent

Chris talked about how we often use comfort to figure out if we're going the right direction — like it's a compass. This prompt invites your family to think about a time when doing the right thing felt hard or uncomfortable, and helps them see that following Jesus sometimes means choosing the harder path because it's the true one.

Chris said that comfort is not a compass — meaning we can't use how good something feels to figure out if we're going the right direction. Can you think of a time when doing what was right felt hard or uncomfortable? What made you decide to do it anyway?
works for ages 8+ — younger kids can listen and share simple examples; teens can engage with more complex moral choices
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Couples · three questions over coffee

Comfort Is Not a Compass

  1. When you heard that comfort is not a compass for obedience, what conviction or discomfort did that stir in you personally—and where in your own life might you be using comfort to guide your choices?
  2. How do we as a couple sometimes encourage each other toward comfort rather than toward faithful obedience to Christ, and where might we need to lovingly call one another into discomfort for the sake of the gospel?
  3. Who in our lives needs us to demonstrate that true love sometimes means calling them toward difficult obedience rather than toward ease—and how can we pray for courage to love them that way?
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Memory verse this week

2 Timothy 1:7

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

Why this verse: This verse stands at the heart of the sermon's argument: Paul directly addresses the temptation to cowardice that Timothy faces, and in doing so reveals that the Spirit gives us not comfort but power to suffer faithfully for Christ. Memorizing this verse anchors the conviction that our compass should be Christ and His call, not the avoidance of discomfort.

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