Why Are Christians Killing the American Church?

1 Corinthians 12:12-31 April 14, 2024 Pastor Ricky Alcantar
Thesis We are called to shift our mindset from 'me' to 'we' because the church is Christ's body—he shapes it, he orders it, and every member is indispensable to his design.
Series
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Tone
propheticpastoraldidactic
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grammatical-historicalcanonicalapplicatory
What's in this sermon

The shape of the argument

32 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #20
"The pastor narrows the application to twenty-somethings, citing Kevin DeYoung's claim that church membership in your twenties is the most fateful decision after conversion. The pastor initially resists the claim ('overstating that') before affirming it ('probably right'). The logic is developmental: church membership shapes every other major life decision in your twenties. This is pastoral wisdom, not just theological argument, and the rhetorical force is urgency ('changes everything')."
Doctrinal loci· 8 surfaced
Ecclesiology · 27 Christology · 8 Pneumatology · 8 Hamartiology · 3 Soteriology · 3 Anthropology · 2 Pastoral Theology · 2 Bibliology · 1
Bible citations· 11
1 Corinthians 12:12-31 | 1 Corinthians 12:12-13 | Acts 9 | 1 Corinthians 12:13 | 1 Corinthians 12:14-15 | 1 Corinthians 12:21 | 1 Corinthians 12:22-24 | 1 Corinthians 12:27-31 | 1 Corinthians 12:28-31 | Ephesians (implied reference to apostles and prophets as foundation)
Illustrations· 3
  1. personal story · unit #14 — The pastor uses a mundane personal story—a text asking for help—to illustrate the power of being needed. The contrast is sharp: the two people responded immediately because they knew they were needed, but most Christians don't think anyone needs them on Sunday morning. The illustration is simple but emotionally effective, making the abstract claim concrete and relatable.
  2. personal story · unit #18 — The pastor narrates a previous pastor's illustration using the anus to illustrate indispensability, framing it as 'I cannot use this... but if I could...' The rhetorical move is brilliant—he uses the illustration while pretending not to. The humor diffuses the shock, and the logic is sound: the parts we think are least necessary are often the most indispensable. The illustration is vivid, memorable, and theologically precise, even if culturally risky. The meta-commentary ('if you have concerns, send them to Tony') is endearing and disarming.
  3. personal story · unit #23 — The pastor narrates a conversation with a parachurch leader to illustrate the danger of reducing church membership to Sunday attendance. The story is structured as a dialogue, building toward the realization that the leader's ecclesiology is deficient. The rhetorical punch line is sharp: 'Attending a church service weekly is not being part of a church. It is attending a concert once a week.' This is a prophetic critique of a common evangelical mistake, delivered in love ('I want to say in love') but with clarity.
Theological claims· 1
  1. The underlying American mindset—seeing the 'we' of church as a 'me' thing—is killing the church. unit #4
Quotations· 1
"When you go away to college, possibly other than believing in Jesus Christ, the most fateful decision you will make in your twenties is the first Sunday you find yourselves without your family making you get up to go to church." — Kevin DeYoung (unit #20)
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0 · The pastor introduces himself to the congregation and frames the gathering as an opening of God's word together

Good morning. My name is Ricky. If you're new here, I would love the chance to meet you. I'm one of the pastors here at the church and so excited to open up God's word together today.

1 · The pastor reads the primary text in full, establishing the biblical foundation for the sermon's argument

All right, well, you should be in first corinthians chapter twelve, beginning in verse twelve. As we read. Let's remember, this is God's word, word for just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one spirit we were all baptized into one body. Jews are Greeks, slaves are free, and all were made to drink of one spirit. For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, because I'm not a hand. I do not belong to the body. That would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, because I'm not an eye, I do not belong to the body. That would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them as he chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body, the eye, cannot say to the hand, I have no need of you. Nor, again, the head, to the feet, I have no need of you. On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable. And on those parts of the body that we think less honorable, we bestow the greater honor. And on our unpresentable parts, are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together. If one member is honored, all rejoice together. Now you are the body of Christ, and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating various kinds of tongues. Are all apostles, are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all possess the gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret, but earnestly desire the higher gifts. This is God's word.

2 · The pastor prays for the Spirit's illumination and transformative work through the preaching of the word

Let's pray. Lord, we pray for your illumination here. We pray for your spirit's work, as we're going to be talking about, to be present in and among our body, helping us grasp the truth of God's word, making it alive in our hearts that we might leave changed. We pray this in your name. Amen.

3 · The pastor narrates three pastoral vignettes—church shopping families, casual twenty-somethings, and would-be prophets seeking platforms—to surface a common American mindset: the church exists to serve 'me

Well, this will not surprise you to learn, but as a pastor, I end up having a lot of conversations with people about church things, and I've started to pick up on a common thread over the years, over the decade plus, I've been doing this, and I'm gonna introduce you to three relatively common conversations I tend to have both inside and outside the church. And I think it reveals a common mindset, even though it's at first disconnected. So, first kind of conversation, a family will be visiting on Sunday, or I'll meet them in the community or even meet them, you know, out at another church event. And one the husband or wife will smile and say, okay, we're something like this, you know, right now. I'll ask where they go to church, or, how'd you come to church? And they'll say, well, you know, right now we're church shopping. We just want to see what fits our family the best. We want to see what programs are available. And they might ask about some of the programs at our church. What programs do you have available? What does it look like? What do you offer families? And they'll kind of talk about the other offerings they found in the area. And essentially, sometimes the force of the conversation is a little bit to me as a pastor. So what do you guys got? You guys got anything good? And I'm like, well, we have donuts. I mean, we do have that or a second kind of conversation. And I'll say, this happens especially among those who are college students or in their early twenties. They'll say something like, oh, man. Yeah, I'm sorry. I didn't end up making it to church or to my church on Sunday. I just got a lot going on. And I was like, oh, man, cool. So, you know, you work in Sunday mornings or, you know, well, not working per se, but, you know, up late Saturday night, it's a late one. Didn't make it. Okay. You know, and then they'll sense like, maybe that wasn't great. So they'll say, well, and plus, I mean, I've got a lot of homework. A lot of homework. Like, okay, you know, and actually, I got stuff going on later Sunday afternoon, too. You're like, oh, okay. You know, try to be just like, okay. Just receive what they're saying. That's a semi conversation, semi frequent conversation. Third semi frequent conversation is somebody that you meet on Sunday or out in the community, and they'll be excited to learn. I'm a pastor. And they'll say, pastor, pastor, so glad I met you. I have. The Lord has given me just such a wonderful ministry. I would love to share with your church. And it could be anything. It could be. I mean, I've had people that have a, like, I mean, I've got a music ministry. I've got. I've had one person say, I have got a one person straight up was like, I'm a prophet. I would love to prophesy over your church. And I'm like, what? I don't know what that means, you know, but okay. Or, you know, I have such a wonderful ministry of teaching. I'd love to share that with your church. Like, okay. And so, pretty quickly, they're asking, can I do that? Is the church available? What would that look like for me? And I'm trying to be like, okay, well, let's talk about that.

4 · The pastor qualifies his diagnostic—the conversations themselves are not wrong—before landing his thesis: the underlying mindset of American individualism is killing the church

And so, at first, all three of those seem disconnected, right? But I think, and let me just say this as well, all of them, on the surface, are fine conversations to have. I'm not discouraging anyone from having those conversations. It is okay to look for a church and to try to prayerfully consider where your family is called to be. It is okay to balance life priorities and to try to figure out how to do everything God is calling you to do. Well, it is okay to believe that maybe God has given you a gifting and to explore how and where to use that. But I don't want to overstate this, but I also almost will. But I think underneath all of these common mindsets I've encountered, there is an underlying mindset in the american church that is killing us. It is killing us. And I don't think I'm overstating that, because I think the american mindset underlying most of our conversations about church, or many, at least of our conversations about church, is we see the we of church as a me thing. Right? We think individually, not corporately, about the church primarily or even exclusively.

5 · The pastor bridges from the diagnostic problem (American individualism) to the biblical solution (Paul's correction to Corinth)

And that mindset. Here's the good news. It's not new. Paul has been addressing that very mindset where the we of church becomes a me thing in the corinthian church. And he's about to address spiritual gifts in depth, which we are going to get into over the next few weeks. But he can't even get into addressing the spiritual gifts in particular until he addresses this underlying mindset. Because in Corinth, everything in the church, everything in the church is being looked at by its members through the lens of me first. What benefits me? What do I like? What do I dislike? What about my gifts? What about my opportunities? And that mindset Paul sees in Corinth is eating the church alive. It is destroying this church in Corinth, and here's the danger. It can and will destroy our church if we let it. It can and will destroy the american church if we let it.

Where this fits

Recent preaching context

The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

Mar 10, 2024
Christians must think about the church not as 'me' or 'them,' but as 'us' — united by the blood of Christ, bearing a corporate identity that supersedes all individual and factional divisions.
1 Corinthians 11:17-34
Mar 24, 2024
Jesus is the better shepherd worth following because He offers abundant life, knows and cares for His sheep intimately, laid down His life for them decisively, and stands in stark contrast to false shepherds who abandon their flocks.
John 10:7-18
Apr 7, 2024
God's steadfast love — affectionate, continuous, and active — endures forever across creation, salvation, and daily provision, and we grasp it by rehearsing His faithfulness through thanksgiving.
Psalm 136
April 14 · This sermon
Why Are Christians Killing the American Church?
We are called to shift our mindset from 'me' to 'we' because the church is Christ's body—he shapes it, he orders it, and every member is indispensable to his design.
1 Corinthians 12:12-31
Earlier in the corpus · June 13, 2021
A prior sermon on 1 Corinthians 12:12-27
You preached this same passage — 12 1 Corinthians 12 citations in that earlier sermon. Worth re-reading before the next time this text comes around.
Take it further

Discuss · apply · pray

Small groups
6 discussion questions
In 1 Corinthians 12:12-13, Paul says the church is one body with many members, all baptized by one Spirit. What does Paul mean when he says…
Daily readings
5-day reading plan
This week we shift from 'me' to 'we' by seeing the church not as our personal expression but as Christ's body—unified by one Spirit, ordered by Christ himself, and made complete only when every member functions in covenant with the others.
Prayer
From Me to We: A Prayer for the Body of Christ
Father, we come before you as members of Christ's body, and we confess that we have too often thought of the church as an expression of ours…
Family table
Who needs who in God's body?
This prompt invites your family to think concretely about interdependence—who they depend on at church, and who might depend on them. Listen…
Couples
From Me to We: One Body in Christ
What part of Ricky's diagnosis of American individualism in the church hit closest to home for you personally—and what did you feel when you…
Memorize
1 Corinthians 12:12-13
This verse is the theological foundation of the entire sermon—it answers the central crisis Ricky names: American Christians are killing the church by thinking 'me' instead of 'we.' The phrase 'so it is with Christ' anchors the shift from individualism to corporateness by reminding the congregation that they are not autonomous members choosing their own path; they are Christ's body, ordered by his design. Memorizing this verse inoculates against the consumer mindset that treats church as optional.
Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. In 1 Corinthians 12:12-13, Paul says the church is one body with many members, all baptized by one Spirit. What does Paul mean when he says we are all 'baptized into one body'? How is this different from the way American culture teaches us to think about belonging?
    1 Corinthians 12:12-13
    → Can you think of a time when you felt like you were part of the church as a consumer—picking and choosing what you wanted—rather than as a member of Christ's actual body?
  2. Ricky mentioned four false beliefs that flow from individualism: 'me over here/you over there,' 'you don't need me,' 'I don't need you,' and 'the church should be shaped by me.' Which of these four do you recognize most in your own thinking about church? What makes that one so easy to believe?
  3. Look at 1 Corinthians 12:21—'The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!"' Paul is saying that every member of the church is indispensable to Christ's design. How does this challenge the American idea that church attendance is optional or that your presence doesn't really matter?
    1 Corinthians 12:21
    → What would it look like for you to stop viewing your participation as optional and start viewing it as essential to the body?
  4. Ricky talked about how digital culture trains us to curate relationships around people just like us, but the local church is diverse and unchosen. How is your experience of church different from your experience of the relationships you've chosen on social media? What's hard about that difference?
  5. In 1 Corinthians 12:22-24, Paul says the parts of the body that seem weaker are actually indispensable, and the unpresentable parts are treated with special honor. Who are the 'weaker' or 'unpresentable' members in your local church? How might the gospel be calling you to honor them differently this week?
    1 Corinthians 12:22-24
    → What would change in your church if every member truly believed they were necessary to Christ's design?
  6. Ricky said we're called to shift our mindset from 'me' to 'we' because the church is Christ's body—he shapes it, he orders it. How does remembering that the church belongs to Christ (not to you, not to the pastor, not to the culture) change the way you should approach your local church this week?
Draft · pending review
Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we shift from 'me' to 'we' by seeing the church not as our personal expression but as Christ's body—unified by one Spirit, ordered by Christ himself, and made complete only when every member functions in covenant with the others.

Monday Ephesians 1:22-23

Paul anchors the church's identity not in the congregation's vision or personality, but in Christ's headship and the Spirit's filling. When we treat the church as 'ours to shape,' we're rejecting the foundational truth that it belongs to Christ and is ordered by him. This is the bedrock claim that dismantles the American 'me-first' approach to church.

Tuesday Acts 9:1-9

Saul thought he was persecuting a movement; Jesus asked, 'Why are you persecuting me?' This reveals the profound union: the church's suffering is Christ's suffering; the church's neglect is Christ's neglect. When American Christians abandon or reshape the church around their preferences, they are—whether they realize it—rejecting Christ himself.

Wednesday 1 Corinthians 12:12-13

We do not choose the body we enter; we are baptized into it by the Spirit. This means the diverse, unchosen people sitting next to us in the pew are not mistakes or inconveniences—they are our covenant family by divine action. The 'me' mindset tries to curate relationships around people like us; the Spirit creates kinship across difference.

Thursday 1 Corinthians 12:21-24

Paul inverts our instinct: the parts we think we don't need, the body 'needs all the more.' When we skip church because 'we don't need it' or stay home because 'they don't need me,' we deny Christ's own design for the body's interdependence. Every absence weakens the whole; every presence strengthens it.

Friday 1 Corinthians 12:27-31

The shift from 'me' to 'we' is not a moral demand but a recognition: you are part of something you didn't create and cannot redesign. Christ has ordered the body; our joy is to discover the gifts he's placed in us and offer them in covenant with the whole. This is the pathway from consumer Christianity to covenant participation.

Draft · pending review
Pray together this week

From Me to We: A Prayer for the Body of Christ

Father, we come before you as members of Christ's body, and we confess that we have too often thought of the church as an expression of ourselves rather than as an expression of your Son. We have treated the gathered church as a consumer product we attend when it suits us, curated relationships around people just like us, and convinced ourselves that our absence doesn't matter. We have believed the lie that we don't need one another, when the very foundation of the church is that we are one body, baptized by one Spirit, ordered by Christ himself (1 Corinthians 12:13).

We thank you that Christ has not left us to our individualism. You have given us the indispensable gift of the body—not a collection of autonomous individuals, but a living organism where every member is necessary, where the eye cannot say to the hand "I don't need you," and where the parts we think least honorable are treated with the greatest care (1 Corinthians 12:21, 22-24). You have bound us together not by our preferences, but by your design. You have made us one another's necessity.

Father, shift our mindset from me to we. Forgive us for the ways we have starved the local church of our presence, our gifts, and our commitment. Give us the courage to show up—to be present to people we did not choose, in a gathering ordered by Christ, not by our comfort. Help us to see that when we absent ourselves, we weaken the body. Help us to believe that we matter, that our gifts matter, and that the church shaped by your design—not by our preferences—is where we belong (1 Corinthians 12:27-28). Make us a people who shift from thinking "What does the church do for me?" to asking "What does Christ need from us?"

We commit ourselves to the body of Christ, not because it is perfect, but because it is his. Make us faithful members of this local expression of his church. To him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever.

Draft · pending review
Sunday-evening family table

Who needs who in God's body?

For the parent

This prompt invites your family to think concretely about interdependence—who they depend on at church, and who might depend on them. Listen for whether kids see the church as a place where they belong to others, not just a place they attend.

Think about one person at church—maybe a leader, or a friend, or someone you don't know very well yet. What would be different if that person stopped coming? What do they do or share that matters to the rest of us?
works for ages 7+
Draft · pending review
Couples · three questions over coffee

From Me to We: One Body in Christ

  1. What part of Ricky's diagnosis of American individualism in the church hit closest to home for you personally—and what did you feel when you heard it?
  2. Where do you sense the 'me' mindset showing up in how we relate to our church community together, and what would it look like for us to shift toward 'we' in that specific area?
  3. What is one gift or calling you sense the Spirit has given you for the body of Christ, and how can we pray for each other to use it faithfully this week?
Draft · pending review
Memory verse this week

1 Corinthians 12:12-13

For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and to one Spirit we were all given to drink.

Why this verse: This verse is the theological foundation of the entire sermon—it answers the central crisis Ricky names: American Christians are killing the church by thinking 'me' instead of 'we.' The phrase 'so it is with Christ' anchors the shift from individualism to corporateness by reminding the congregation that they are not autonomous members choosing their own path; they are Christ's body, ordered by his design. Memorizing this verse inoculates against the consumer mindset that treats church as optional.

Draft · pending review
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