The Pain Club

Psalm 22 July 13, 2025 Pastor Ricky Alcantar
Thesis God will not forsake those who feel forsaken, as proven ultimately by Christ's forsaking on the cross for our sake.
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pastoraldidacticpropheticcelebratory
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grammatical-historicalredemptive-historicalcanonical
What's in this sermon

The shape of the argument

51 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #19
"Two applications: first, that lifelong prayer is the goal, not a burden; second, that the congregation must become a safe place for honest sharing of pain. The mall illustration makes visible the common human tendency to avoid suffering people, which the church must resist."
Doctrinal loci· 10 surfaced
Pastoral Theology · 13 Bibliology · 10 Theology Proper · 8 Soteriology · 7 Christology · 5 Ecclesiology · 4 Hamartiology · 4 Anthropology · 2 Eschatology · 2 Providence / Sovereignty · 1
Bible citations· 26
Psalm 23 | Psalm 22:1-31 | Psalm 22:1 | Psalm 22:2 | Psalm 22:7 | Psalm 22:14-15 | Psalm 22:17 | Psalm 22:1-2 | Psalm 22:11 | Psalm 22:19 | Psalm 22:3-5 | Genesis 12-22 (Abraham) | Exodus 14 (Red Sea) | Book of Ruth | Exodus (Egypt deliverance) | Psalm 22:9-10 | Psalm 22:1-21 | Psalm 22:21-22 | Psalm 22:26 | Matthew 27:46 / Mark 15:34 | Isaiah 53 | Psalm 22:14-17 | Crucifixion accounts (Gospels)
Illustrations· 5
  1. personal story · unit #3 — Establishes pastoral credibility and creates immediate identification with suffering listeners by sharing the preacher's own two-year experience with chronic back pain. The medical specificity (pain scale 4-8) and the inability to find relief in any position creates visceral empathy.
  2. personal story · unit #4 — Develops the 'pain club' metaphor by describing the social alienation and altered perception that chronic suffering creates. The humor about the pain specialist's waiting room provides emotional relief while reinforcing the isolating reality of suffering and the importance of community.
  3. personal story · unit #16 — Personal narrative about his five-year-old's insistence on continued prayer models childlike faith that refuses to give up before God answers. The child's simple logic—'why would you stop praying before he answers?'—becomes a rebuke to adult resignation.
  4. personal story · unit #28 — Personal testimony illustrating the totalizing effect of chronic pain on memory. The dialogue with the physical therapist dramatizes the cognitive distortion suffering creates.
  5. analogy · unit #34 — Extended analogy comparing trust in a bank's past reliability to trust in God's promises. The mundane financial transaction makes the theological point accessible and the humor ('calm and bored') provides emotional relief.
Theological claims· 17
  1. Chronic pain—whether physical, mental, relational, or spiritual—is a universal human experience that everyone will face at some point. unit #5
  2. Psalm 22 addresses the most important question of human existence: what do we do when we land in a place of pain? unit #6
  3. God will not forsake those who feel forsaken—this is the answer to what we do in pain. unit #7
  4. Brutal honesty about suffering is biblical and legitimate for Christians, contradicting pop-psychology Christianity that teaches constant positivity. unit #11
  5. Being in a state of mess and anguish is precisely when and why we should come to God in prayer, not a reason to avoid Him. unit #15
  6. Prayer in suffering should be persistent and sustained—'setting up shop' in the place of prayer—not transactional or sporadic. unit #17
  7. Psalm 22 guards against two extremes: bottling pain in silence and wallowing in pain without remembering truth. unit #22
  8. Remembering God's faithfulness in both redemptive history and personal history is an active fight against the amnesia that suffering produces. unit #29
  9. David can rejoice in verse 22 not because circumstances changed but because he grasped the truth that God's past character guarantees His future action. unit #32
  10. God's promises are like guaranteed bank deposits—His past record of fulfillment means we can trust Him with absolute confidence for future deliverance. unit #35
  11. You do not have to wait for circumstances to change before rejoicing, because God's past faithfulness guarantees future deliverance regardless of timing. unit #36
  12. We are not only forsaken but forsakeners—our own sin creates legitimate doubt about whether God will keep His promises to us. unit #40
  13. Jesus experienced forsakenness on the cross as our substitute, taking what we deserve so that we would never be forsaken despite our sin. unit #42
  14. The cross is the ironclad guarantee that you will never be forsaken—if God paid that price to keep His promises, He will not abandon you now. unit #44
  15. Every promise of God is guaranteed by Christ's blood—His death is the divine endorsement ensuring the promises will be kept. unit #45
  16. Being a Christian does not exempt you from the pain club—sometimes it intensifies suffering. unit #47
  17. For those in Christ, the Pain Club is actually the Glory Club—suffering is the first act of a story whose ending is guaranteed resurrection and eternal life. unit #48
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0 · Opens the sermon by establishing Psalm 22's scriptural importance despite its relative unfamiliarity, contrasting it with the more popular Psalm 23

Psalm chapter 22. Now, this is one of the most important psalms in the book of Psalms if you go by the number of references in the New Testament to it. So some of the most important and crucial references in all the New Testament to the Old Testament are in Psalm 22. But Psalm 22 is not a psalm that many Christians are familiar with. We're very familiar with its, you could say, more popular cousin, Psalm 23. The Lord is my shepherd. And as we read, you're gonna find out why it's perhaps less popular. Starts very differently. But I have lived in Psalm 22 in some periods of my life, and it has brought incredible encouragement to me, and my hope and prayer is it will do the same for you. So as we read, we're gonna read the entirety of Psalm 22, and I want you to pick up on the very, very different shift from verse 21 to verse 22. Verses 1 through 21 have a particular tone, and then verses 22 and onward have a different tone. And as we read, let's remember this is God's word.

1 · Full public reading of Psalm 22, establishing the biblical text as the foundation for the sermon

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me from from the words of my groaning? Oh, my God. I cry by day, but you do not answer, and by night, but I find no rest. Yet you are holy, enthroned on the praises of Israel. In you our fathers trusted, they trusted and you delivered them. To you they cried and were rescued. In you they trusted and were not put to shame. But I am a worm and not a man. Scorned by mankind and despised by the people. All who see me mock me. They make mouths at me, they wag their heads. He trusts in the Lord, Let him deliver him. Let him rescue him, for he delights in him. Yet you are he who took me from the womb. You made me trust you at my mother's breasts. On you was I cast from my birth and from my mother's womb, and you have been my God. Be not far from me, for trouble is near, and there is none to help. Many bulls encompass me. Strong bulls of Bashan surround me. They open wide their mouths at me like a ravening and roaring lion. I am poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint. My heart is like wax, it is melted within my breast. My strength is dried up like a potsherd, and my tongue sticks to my jaws. You lay me in the dust. Death for dogs encompass me. A company of evildoers encircles me. They have pierced my hands and feet. I can count all my bones. They stare and gloat over me. They divide my garments among them for my clothing they cast lots. But you, O Lord, do not be far off. O you, my help. Come quickly to my aid. Deliver my soul from the sword, my precious life, from the power of the dog. Save me from the mouth of the lion. You have rescued me me from the horns of the wild oxen. I will tell of your name to my brothers in the midst of the congregation. I will praise you, you who fear the Lord. Praise him all you offspring of Jacob. Glorify him and stand in awe of him, all you offspring of Israel. For he has not despised or aboard the affliction of the afflicted. And he has not hidden his face from him, but has heard from when we cried to him. From you comes my praise in the great congregation. My vows I will perform before those who fear him. The afflicted shall eat and be satisfied. Those who seek him shall praise the Lord. May your hearts live forever. All the ends of the earth shall remember and turn to the Lord. And the families of the nation shall worship before you. My for kingship belongs to the Lord, and he rules over the nations. All the prosperous of the earth eat and worship. Before him shall bow all who go down to the dust, even the one who could not keep himself alive. Posterity shall serve him. It shall be told of the Lord to the coming generation. They shall come and proclaim his righteousness to a people yet unborn that he has done it. This is God's word.

2 · Brief pastoral prayer asking for God's blessing on the proclamation and reception of the sermon, marking the transition from scripture reading to exposition

Lord, I pray your blessing over the preaching and the hearing of your word today. Amen.

3 · Establishes pastoral credibility and creates immediate identification with suffering listeners by sharing the preacher's own two-year experience with chronic back pain

Well, a few years ago, I joined a club that I never wanted to join, the chronic pain club. Is anybody currently in the chronic pain club? You're feeling it. You've got a chronic pain issue. Yeah. Come on. This is for you. At different times of my life when I. During this particular two year period, I had chronic back pain. Back pain so intense I could not walk without pain, I could not sit down without pain, and I could not lie down without pain. And all the people's advice to me was a variation of those. Have you tried walking? Yep. Have you tried lying down? I have. Have you tried sitting also? Yes. Right. It's just you trying to be helpful, but yes, everything hurts. If you're in the chronic pain club, you know these numbers. My pain ranged from a 4 to an 8 throughout the day.

4 · Develops the 'pain club' metaphor by describing the social alienation and altered perception that chronic suffering creates

And you realize when you join the chronic pain club that you Drop out of the normal people's club, and you are suddenly in, like, another world from them. You start to realize, man, these people, they're just walking around like nothing, just walking back and forth. Look at that. Oh, look, they're sitting down. They just look relaxed. That's great. How was your night of sleep? Nice? Oh, wonderful. You know, like, you realize I'm in a different world now. And I found. However, other people were in the chronic pain club with me, and I found them, for example, at the pain specialist office. It's not a real lively crowd at the pain specialist office. Not a lot of high fives, not a lot of merry Christmases. And I found people at church and in my normal everyday life, people would. Would hear what I was going through and talk about their experience, which was strangely encouraging to know that, okay, there are other people here with me.

5 · Universalizes the pain experience, expanding the definition beyond physical suffering to include mental, relational, and spiritual anguish

And I was there for a real specific period of two years. And I have had a variety since then of other. Of that and other issues that have landed me at various times in the chronic pain club. Now here's the reality. Sooner or later, you too will join the. The chronic pain club. I've got it on good reports from brothers and sisters in their 70s, 80s, and 90s that they are all eventually in the chronic pain club. Now, it may be physical for you, but also the chronic pain club can include the department of mental pain. Right? Your brain cannot work the way it's supposed to. You could be dealing with a severe mental disorder or anxiety disorder or. Or at severe depression. You can be dealing with relational pain, which many times is worse. You'd rather trade the relational pain for physical pain any day if you've been there. Or maybe even spiritual pain, where you just. You wanna be close to God, but you just don't feel the closeness. And you're struggling and crying out. And here's the reality. When we read Psalm 22, we have to remember, you have been in the chronic pain club, you are in the chronic pain club, or you will be in the chronic pain club.

Where this fits

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July 13 · This sermon
The Pain Club
God will not forsake those who feel forsaken, as proven ultimately by Christ's forsaking on the cross for our sake.
Psalm 22
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Discuss · apply · pray

Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. In Psalm 22, David moves from crying out 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?' to declaring 'I will tell of your name to my brothers; in the midst of the congregation I will praise you.' What does this dramatic shift tell us about what David actually believed about God's character, even while he was in deep pain?
    Psalm 22:1, 22
    → Can you think of a time in your own life when you felt abandoned by God, yet later realized He had not actually left you? What helped you see that truth?
  2. David spent time remembering God's past faithfulness—how He had been faithful to Abraham, how He had delivered Israel from Egypt, how He had been present since David's birth. Why do you think this act of remembering was essential to David's ability to move from lament to praise?
    Psalm 22:3-5, 9-10
  3. The sermon teaches that we are not only forsaken but forsakeners—our own sin creates legitimate reasons to doubt whether God will keep His promises to us. How does understanding your own role in breaking covenant change the way you read Psalm 22's cry of abandonment?
  4. Jesus quoted Psalm 22:1 from the cross ('My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'), experiencing complete abandonment as our substitute. What does it mean for your own suffering that Jesus has already walked through the ultimate forsakenness and came out the other side?
    Matthew 27:46
    → Does knowing that Christ experienced forsakenness change how you pray when you feel abandoned by God?
  5. The sermon says that being a Christian does not exempt you from the Pain Club—sometimes it actually intensifies suffering. How does that reality reshape the way you understand God's promises to us, and what does it mean to rejoice even when circumstances haven't changed?
  6. What would it look like for your small group or church community to be a place where people can honestly share pain without others withdrawing or offering cheap comfort—a place that honors both lament and faith at the same time?
    → What is one way you could invite someone in your life to bring their pain to God and to the community this week, modeling the vulnerability that Psalm 22 teaches?
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

5-day reading plan

This week we walk through the pain that David knew and the faithfulness God has always shown—leading us to the cross, where Jesus endorsed every promise with His blood.

Monday Psalm 23

David wrote Psalm 23 after writing Psalm 22—the same shepherd who cried 'My God, why have you forsaken me?' now declares 'I will fear no evil, for you are with me.' This is not because his circumstances changed, but because he remembered who God is. The valley of the shadow of death is real, but the Shepherd's presence in it is real too.

Tuesday Genesis 12-22 (Abraham)

Abraham waited decades for the promise of a son, experienced famine, wandered in uncertainty—yet his faith grew by rehearsing what God had already done. When we are in pain, we must do what Abraham did: recall the pattern of God's deliverance in Scripture and appropriate it as our own story, not admire it from a distance.

Wednesday Exodus 14 (Red Sea)

Israel stood at the Red Sea with an army at their backs, and God's promise seemed impossible. But God's past faithfulness—every plague, every protection—was the foundation for trusting Him in that moment. When you are in the pain club, your confidence is not in changed circumstances but in God's unchanging character and His proven track record.

Thursday Matthew 27:46 / Mark 15:34 (Jesus on the cross)

Jesus quoted Psalm 22:1 at the moment of deepest abandonment—'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?' He did not quote it from a distance; He lived it completely, experiencing the forsakenness we deserve. This is not theory; this is the God-man entering the pain club itself to guarantee us a way out.

Friday Isaiah 53

Isaiah's suffering servant passage moves from piercing, bruising, and affliction to exaltation and vindication. Jesus lived this arc completely—cross to resurrection—and everyone united to Him by faith lives the same pattern. Your pain today is real, but it is not the final word. Every promise is guaranteed by His blood, and every promise includes your resurrection.

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Pray together this week

Prayer of the Forsaken Who Will Never Be Forsaken

Father, we come before You this week as people who know pain. Some of us carry chronic suffering in our bodies. Some of us grieve in silence. Some of us wonder if You have abandoned us in the darkest seasons of our lives. We confess that we often bottle our anguish rather than bring it to You in honest prayer, as if our pain disqualifies us from Your presence. Forgive us for the lie that we must hide our wounds from the God who sees all things.

Yet here is the truth we cling to: You will not forsake those who feel forsaken. You proved this at Calvary, where Your Son quoted the very words of David's despair and drank the cup of complete abandonment so that we would never have to. Jesus experienced forsakenness as our substitute, taking what we deserve, guaranteeing by His blood that You will never leave us, no matter how broken we become. Every promise You have ever made is endorsed by the cross.

This week, grant us the courage to bring our pain into the light—to our church family, to our small groups, to You in persistent, sustained prayer. Help us remember Your faithfulness, not as distant history but as our own story. When we are tempted to despair, remind us that our circumstances may not change tomorrow, but our God does not change today. Grant us the grace to rejoice in Your character even while we carry our suffering, knowing that the pain club of this age is actually the glory club of the age to come.

We commit ourselves to You. We trust You. We will not be forsaken. Amen.

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Sunday-evening family table

What Do We Do When It Hurts?

For the parent

This card invites your family to think about what David did when he was in terrible pain—he didn't hide it, he brought it to God honestly. The goal is to help kids (and you) see that pain is real, that telling God about it matters, and that He doesn't leave us alone in it.

David wrote Psalm 22 when he was in really bad pain and felt like God had left him alone. But instead of keeping it inside, he told God exactly how he was feeling—even the angry, hurt parts. Have you ever felt like God was far away, or has someone you love felt that way? What do you think it would look like to tell God about that pain, just like David did, instead of keeping it locked up?
Works for ages 7+; younger kids can listen and share; teens and adults will naturally engage at deeper levels of their own pain or observation
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Couples · three questions over coffee

When Pain Feels Like Abandonment

  1. What part of your own pain story did the sermon bring to mind—and how has that pain tempted you to doubt God's presence with you?
  2. As a couple, where have we either bottled our pain in silence or forgotten to remind each other of God's faithfulness when we're in the middle of suffering?
  3. What is one specific promise of God that you need to hear your spouse speak back to you this week—and will you pray it for one another?
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Memory verse this week

Psalm 22:1

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, from the words of my groaning?

Why this verse: This opening cry is the sermon's thematic anchor and the question every person in pain must learn to ask God. It is also the very verse Jesus quoted on the cross, proving that Christ endorsed this prayer as the legitimate language of abandonment, and guaranteeing that those who trust Him will never actually be forsaken.

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