Questioning the Kindness of God

Ruth 1:1-22 November 21, 2021 Pastor Ricky Alcantar
Thesis God is a God of hesed — loving kindness — and even when we cannot see His kindness in our circumstances, He is present, working, and will bring our stories to fullness.
Series
The Kindness of God
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pastoraldidacticcelebratory
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grammatical-historicalredemptive-historicalcanonicalapplicatory
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46 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #41
"Applies the sermon to the church's recent history through COVID-19, inviting honest wrestling with God over the hardships of 2020-2021 and calling the congregation to communal prayer and mutual support."
Doctrinal loci· 11 surfaced
Providence / Sovereignty · 10 Theology Proper · 10 Ecclesiology · 8 Soteriology · 7 Bibliology · 5 Hamartiology · 5 Christology · 4 Eschatology · 3 Pastoral Theology · 3 Ethics / Moral Theology · 1 Sanctification · 1
Bible citations· 33
Ruth 1:1-5 | Judges (entire book, especially the cyclical pattern of apostasy-oppression-deliverance) | Ruth 1:1 | Ruth 1:6-15 | Ruth 1:13 ('the hand of the Lord has gone out against me') | Old Testament commands about intermarriage with pagan nations | Ruth 1:8-13 | Ruth 1:15 | Ruth 1:11-13 | Deuteronomy 25:5-10 (levirate marriage law) | Ruth 1:16-18 | Ruth 1:6-7 | Genesis (Abraham narrative) | Ruth 1:16 ('your God my God') | Exodus (Red Sea crossing) | Ruth 1:16-17 | Ruth 1:14 ('Ruth clung to her') | Christ's birth in Bethlehem | Christ's incarnation, death, burial, and resurrection | Old Testament 'I will be with you' promises | Ruth 1:19-22 | Ruth 1:20-21 | Ruth 1:21-22 | Genesis to Revelation (canonical arc) | Revelation 21:4 (no more tears) | Ruth 1:22 ('at the beginning of barley harvest') | Eschatological harvest imagery | Exodus (deliverance from Egypt) | Christ's birth, death, and resurrection | Matthew 1 (Ruth in the genealogy of Christ)
Illustrations· 9
  1. cultural reference · unit #2 — Uses the cultural reference of Hallmark movies to make Ruth's narrative structure accessible and emotionally relatable, framing the book as a story that speaks to deep human longings.
  2. personal story · unit #17 — The pastor shares his own experience of chronic pain over several years and the Naomi-like questions it has provoked, modeling vulnerability and identifying with the congregation's struggles.
  3. personal story · unit #22 — Illustrates God's kindness through suffering with a testimony from the congregation — how God used marital infidelity and brokenness to bring a couple to Christ, paralleling how God may have used Naomi's losses to bring Ruth to faith.
  4. personal story · unit #24 — Parallels the pastor's experience of chronic pain with Naomi's — internally questioning God's kindness while externally experiencing it through his wife's help, making Naomi's blindness vivid and relatable.
  5. · unit #32 — Explains why God chose to reveal His kindness through narrative rather than proposition — so that we who live in stories can learn to trust that our mid-story bleakness is not the end.
  6. personal story · unit #33 — Illustrates the principle with personal testimony — if he had written his story mid-narrative during romantic rejection, it would have ended in tragedy, but God's story had a different ending.
  7. personal story · unit #34 — Illustrates the principle with church history — in the middle of the story (declining attendance and budget), the narrative looked like failure, but God's kindness has brought growth and new members.
  8. · unit #37 — Expands the dramatic irony of Ruth 1:22 — not only does Ruth stand beside Naomi, but the barley fields are ripe for harvest, surrounding Naomi with God's provision even as she declares everything barren.
  9. analogy · unit #38 — Illustrates the principle of learning to see God's kindness everywhere with the Disney 'hidden Mickey' phenomenon — once you learn to look, you see it everywhere.
Theological claims· 12
  1. Ruth reveals God's character and functions as a prequel to Christ's coming to Bethlehem. unit #3
  2. The Book of Ruth is fundamentally about hesed — God's loving kindness toward His people. unit #5
  3. Hardship reveals what we truly believe about God's character. unit #10
  4. Hard circumstances in life may result from our sin, our unwise choices, or from inexplicable tragedies, and God's purposes differ in each case. unit #13
  5. Even while Naomi questions God's kindness, she is actually experiencing it — God is bringing her home to His people and His presence. unit #20
  6. God's kindness is seen in bringing Ruth to a saving knowledge of Yahweh despite the family's failures, using even their flawed witness to reveal the gospel distinction between grace and law. unit #21
  7. God's kindness is present in Ruth's radical commitment to Naomi — Ruth speaks and embodies hesed toward Naomi as an expression of God's hesed. unit #23
  8. Ruth's radical, unwarranted commitment to Naomi — especially the detail that Ruth 'clung' to her — is a picture of Christ, who clings to His people even when they push Him away. unit #25
  9. Christ is the ultimate fulfillment of Ruth's commitment — He literally left heaven to say 'where you go, I will go,' identified with humanity, died, was buried, and rose, thus clinging to His people to the uttermost. unit #26
  10. Seeing God's kindness requires recognizing that our stories are not over — God's kindness unfolds over the long arc of the narrative, not according to our timetables. unit #31
  11. God's kindness does not always work on our timetable, but the trajectory of the entire biblical canon is toward the full revelation of God's kindness, both in this life and in the life to come. unit #35
  12. Seeing God's kindness requires looking for it, not only for our loss — if we only look for loss, we will always find it, but if we look for God's kindness, we will find it as well. unit #36
Quotations· 3
"God sometimes takes away the things that have become precious to us because they are supporting us in our life of sin and hardness of heart toward him. Alternatively, he sometimes takes away things that were good in themselves because he wants to use our lives as a powerful testimony of the sufficiency of his grace in the midst of our weakness and loss. But invariably, he has not brought these trials and losses into our lives because he hates us and is seeking to afflict us or to get even with us for our sin. On the contrary, if we are his children, he loves us and through this loss wants us to receive something far more precious than that which we've become so desperately attached He wants to give us more of himself." — Dr. Ian Duguid (unit #13)
"This answers our doubts that God really has our best interests at heart. Who left his Father's house to come and live with us even to the point of death? Against whom did the Almighty's hand truly go out in bitter judgment even though he had no sin of his own that would have deserved deserves such punishment? Jesus." — Iain Duguid (unit #20)
"God is too good to be unkind and he is too wise to be mistaken. When we cannot trace his hand, we must trust his heart." — Spurgeon (unit #40)
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0 · The pastor frames the upcoming sermon series on God's kindness, connects it to Advent, and shares concrete examples of the church experiencing and expressing God's kindness through ministry partnerships and new members joining

kind of starting our Christmas season, as it were, our Advent season a little bit early this time around. We're focusing on the kindness of God in the next number of weeks together as a church. And one of the things we're going to do, you'll hear more about this, is this Afghan sort of relief program was an unexpected thing, but we've been planning all year toward the end of the year to highlight ways that our church community can display the kindness of God to to those around us. And so a couple weeks from now, we're going to actually have a new ministry partner for us, which is— his name is Doug Hayes. He leads an organization called Covenant Mercies, which helps the fatherless in certain areas of Africa, like Kenya and Zambia.

He's going to be here with us to talk about how we can show the kindness of God through orphan care and the care for the fatherless. There'll be opportunities for us to jump in as individuals and families with that. The other thing that's going to be cool in the next few weeks is we're We're going to see the kindness of God through this next new members class. If you're part of the new members class, we're so excited that you're going to be joining the church. We actually— here's an awesome thing.

We have too many— I don't know if we've ever had this. We have too many people joining the church to welcome everybody on one Sunday because we just can't— like, I want them to be, like, on the stage so we can actually see them and be like, hey, I've seen that guy, you know, at my workplace or whatever. We can't do it. So we're actually going to do it next week and the week after. So for the next 2 weeks, we'll be welcoming people, which is an amazing kindness of God.

I will be honest, when we did this new members class, I thought, well, anybody that wanted to join joined in the summer. I mean, we're probably maybe have a handful of people, but the Lord's kindness continues to come through you guys. So, so excited about that.

1 · Signals the structural shift from series introduction to the exposition of Ruth, providing orientation for those unfamiliar with the biblical text's location

And with that, with that season, we're also starting a new book of the Bible. We're taking a break from The Gospel of Mark, we'll finish that early next year, but we're going to start a new book of the Bible. So let's open our Bibles to the book of Ruth. The book of Ruth. If you're new to the Bible, it's probably in the first quarter of the Bible, right after the book of Judges.

2 · Uses the cultural reference of Hallmark movies to make Ruth's narrative structure accessible and emotionally relatable, framing the book as a story that speaks to deep human longings

And you may be wondering, okay, well, if we're doing an Advent series, a Christmas series, why are we turning to the book of Ruth? Well, here's my question for you as we start: How many people are Hallmark Hallmark movie fans? How many people, raise your hand, just be proud about it, don't be ashamed, there's no shame here, guys. Hallmark movie fans, you love 'em, okay, very good. Now put your hand down. Who here is like an anti-Hallmark movie fan? Like the opposite of a Hallmark movie fan?

Have you noticed that these two people marry each other? There's two kinds of people in the world, people that love Hallmark, people that hate Hallmark, and then they marry each other. And I know that there's a third category, I will not I ask you to raise your hands for, but which is those people who say they hate Hallmark, but you know and I know at some point this Christmas season, you are gonna cry watching one. It's gonna happen. And maybe late at night when you're weak and you happen to turn there.

Well, the next few weeks, if I could say it this way, we're gonna be going through the original Hallmark movie, which is the Book of Ruth. Tell me if this sounds like the setup to a Hallmark movie, okay? It starts with an old woman embittered by the hardships of life returning to her home, her hometown, after a long time away. With her is a young widow just wondering how to make ends meet this season. But meanwhile, in the big house on the hill is a rich, a bachelor who owns many fields and just so happens to not have found love thus far.

I bet you can see where this is going. By the end of the book, the rich bachelor and the young widow, they are married. The old woman, her heart is warmed and full of joy. The whole hometown is singing and dancing, and the book ends with, soon after, a baby arriving and this old woman holding this grandchild in her arms while snow falls. Softly around them, right?

Maybe not exactly, but that's essentially the book of Ruth. It's one of those kinds of stories.

3 · Establishes the theological claim that Ruth reveals God's character and serves as a redemptive-historical prequel to Christ's coming, connecting the Old Testament narrative to the gospel

And why do we gravitate to these kinds of stories? Well, because I think these stories speak to some of our deepest longings, don't they? They speak to our longings for home, for love, for restoration in many ways. Ruth seems like a simple book, but it goes all the way down to our deepest longings. And in a sense, what happens in the book of Ruth is we see the character of God revealed in the drama that plays out in the small town of Bethlehem. And so many years later, we see the kindness of God expressed in this small town of Bethlehem through sending Christ. So if you could say it this way, Ruth is the prequel to the coming of Christ to the tiny town of Bethlehem.

4 · Public reading of Ruth 1:1-5, establishing the historical setting, introducing the characters, and narrating the sequence of tragedies that leave Naomi bereaved

So we're gonna begin reading today in Ruth 1, verse 1. This is God's Word. In the days when the judges ruled, there was a famine in the land, and a man of Bethlehem in Judah went to sojourn in the country of Moab. He and his wife and his two sons. The name of the man was Elimelech, the name of the wife, Naomi, and the names of his two sons were Mahlon and Chilion. They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem in Judah.

They went into the country of Moab and remained there. But Elimelech, the husband of Naomi, died, and she was left with her two sons. These took Moabite wives. The name of the one was Orpah and the name of the other Ruth. They lived there about 10 years, and both Mahlon and Chilion died, so that the woman was left without her two sons and her husband.

This is God's word.

5 · Introduces the Hebrew concept of hesed as the theological center of Ruth, framing the book as a revelation of God's character and previewing the narrative arc from absence to recognition of kindness

I wanna tell you upfront what the Book of Ruth is about. It is about this Hebrew word, hesed. Hesed is kindness or mercy, or probably the best translation is loving kindness. It's used 250 times in the Old Testament, mostly to refer to God's character. God is revealed as a God of hesed, a God of loving kindness toward his people. And if you lay the Book of Ruth out, sort of, you know, on a page, the middle of the Book of Ruth, kind of the hinge of the Book of Ruth, is Naomi confessing and rejoicing in the loving kindness of God. That is where the whole book turns, and that's where we're going. But Chapter 1 seems to start with the absence of kindness. It is bleak, very bleak.

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Questioning the Kindness of God
God is a God of hesed — loving kindness — and even when we cannot see His kindness in our circumstances, He is present, working, and will bring our stories to fullness.
Ruth 1:1-22
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God's kindness is not always visible in our immediate circumstances, but His story is unfolding toward fullness. This week, we trace how Ruth reveals God's character, how His hesed appears even in hardship, and how we learn to look for His kindness rather than only our loss.

Monday Judges (entire book, especially the cyclical pattern of apostasy-oppression-deliverance)

The Book of Judges shows God's people trapped in a cycle of sin, oppression, and rescue—a pattern that repeats because the heart has not fundamentally changed. Ruth arrives after Judges ends, not with another judge, but with a quiet family story in which God's deliverance comes through covenant faithfulness and hesed. Ruth is the answer to Judges' despair: God's character is not exhausted by cycles of judgment; it moves toward redemption through a humble woman and the lineage of Christ.

Tuesday Deuteronomy 25:5-10 (levirate marriage law)

The law of levirate marriage required a kinsman to marry a widow and preserve her family's name and inheritance. But the law alone is cold; it can be refused (Deuteronomy 25:9-10 shows the shame that follows refusal). Ruth's story shows hesed fulfilling and exceeding the law—a kinsman who does not merely obey but loves, who goes beyond what duty requires. God's kindness operates not by command but by the willing heart that chooses covenant mercy.

Wednesday Exodus (Red Sea crossing)

Israel cried out in Egypt, believing God had abandoned them, until the Red Sea parted and revealed God's presence and power all along. Naomi, like Israel, believes God's hand has turned against her (Ruth 1:13), yet God is already bringing her home to Bethlehem, the City of David, the place where God's name dwells. Kindness often arrives unrecognized; we must wait to see the full arc of deliverance to understand that God was there before we ever saw Him.

Thursday Ruth 1:16-17 paired with Christ's incarnation, death, burial, and resurrection

When Ruth says 'where you go, I will go; where you live, I will live...your people will be my people, your God my God' (Ruth 1:16), she abandons her own security to cling to Naomi in her bitterness and loss. Christ does the same—He leaves heaven, enters into our suffering, dies with us, is buried with us, and rises to bring us fully into the family of God. Ruth's hesed toward Naomi is not a command she obeys; it is love that moves her. So too, Christ's commitment to us is the free overflow of His character, not a transaction.

Friday Revelation 21:4 (no more tears)

Naomi named herself Mara—bitter—because she saw only what God had taken from her. But God's story does not end in chapter one; it moves toward the harvest, toward redemption, toward a grandson who restores her name and secures her future. The arc of Scripture bends toward Revelation's promise: God will wipe away every tear, and His kindness will be revealed in fullness. This week, ask yourself: where have you been looking for God's hand? What loss are you facing that God may be redeeming in ways you cannot yet see?

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Sunday-evening family table

Where You Go, I Will Go

For the parent

This prompt invites your family to notice Ruth's radical commitment to Naomi — a commitment that mirrors Christ's commitment to us. Listen for moments when your kids recognize loyalty, sacrifice, or staying with someone even when it's hard. The goal is to help them see that God's kindness often looks like someone staying with us.

In the sermon, we heard about Ruth saying to Naomi, 'Where you go, I will go.' Ruth didn't have to stay with Naomi — she could have gone back to her own family. But she stayed anyway. Can you think of a time when someone stayed with you or you stayed with someone else, even when it would have been easier to leave? What does it mean to have someone who won't leave you, no matter what?
works for ages 6+ — younger kids can share simple examples (a friend who stayed when they were sad); older kids can reflect on sacrifice and covenant
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Couples · three questions over coffee

Where You Go, I Will Go

  1. What circumstance in your life right now feels like Naomi's famine — where you're tempted to doubt God's kindness? What would it look like to keep looking for His hesed even there?
  2. Ruth clung to Naomi even when it made no sense. Where in our marriage do we need to cling to one another and to Christ's kindness toward us, especially when the story feels unfinished?
  3. How can we help each other see God's kindness this week instead of only seeing our losses? What is one specific way you want me to pray for your faith in God's goodness?
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Small-group discussion

6 questions for your group this week

  1. Read Ruth 1:1-5. What does the text tell us about Naomi's circumstances, and what do you notice about how quickly her life unravels?
    Ruth 1:1-5
    → When you read 'famine' and then 'death' three times over, what emotional weight does that create for Naomi—and for us as readers?
  2. Look at Ruth 1:13 and 1:20-21, where Naomi speaks about God's hand going out against her. What does Naomi believe about God's character in this moment, and what evidence from her circumstances seems to confirm it?
    Ruth 1:13, 1:20-21
  3. Ruth 1:16-17 contains Ruth's radical commitment to Naomi—'where you go, I will go; where you live, I will live; your people will be my people; your God my God.' What does Ruth's choice reveal about what she values, given that she's choosing poverty, foreignness, and a widow's precarious life?
    Ruth 1:14, 1:16-17
    → The text says Ruth 'clung' to Naomi (1:14). Why do you think the writer chose that particular word rather than simply 'stayed with' or 'followed'?
  4. Even while Naomi is saying 'the Lord's hand has gone out against me,' the text shows God working behind the scenes—bringing the family back to Bethlehem, bringing Ruth into God's covenant people, bringing Ruth to faith in Yahweh. What does this gap between what Naomi sees and what God is actually doing tell us about our own ability to recognize God's kindness in real time?
    Ruth 1:6-7, 1:20-22
  5. The sermon argues that Ruth's 'clinging' to Naomi—her radical, unwarranted commitment despite having every reason to leave—is a picture of Christ, who clings to us even when we push Him away. Where do you see Christ doing this kind of clinging in your own life, especially in moments when you doubted His kindness?
    → How does knowing that Christ clings to you when your circumstances tempt you to doubt God's goodness change the way you read Naomi's bitterness?
  6. Ruth 1:22 ends with the detail that they arrived 'at the beginning of barley harvest'—a small phrase that hints the story is not over. What is the difference between reading our painful chapters as the end of our story versus reading them as part of a longer story that God is still writing?
    Ruth 1:22
    → What does it look like in your small group or church family to help one another 'look for God's kindness' rather than only looking for our loss?
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Pray together this week

Father, Teach Us to See Your Kindness

Father, we come before You as Naomi came — with questions that cut deep, with circumstances that seem to contradict Your character, with losses that make us wonder if Your hand has turned against us. We confess that when hardship comes, we often look only for our pain and miss the kindness You are working all around us. Like Naomi in the fields of Moab, we sometimes cannot see that You are already bringing us home, already writing our story toward fullness, already present in ways we do not yet recognize.

We are grateful that You do not demand our faith be perfect before You show us mercy. Even as Naomi questioned Your kindness, even as she spoke bitter words about Your hand against her, You were present — bringing her to Bethlehem, bringing Ruth into Your family, weaving together a story of hesed that would lead to Christ Himself. Teach us to look beyond our immediate loss and see the larger arc of Your purpose. Help us to recognize that our stories, like Ruth's, are not finished in chapter one. Give us eyes to see Your kindness even in seasons of darkness.

We thank You for Ruth — that one who clung to Naomi and embodied Your own hesed toward us. More than that, we worship You for Christ, who left heaven to say 'where you go, I will go,' who identified with us fully, who clung to us even when we pushed Him away, who died and rose to secure our salvation forever. In light of His radical commitment to us, grant us grace to welcome others into Your family as we have been welcomed, to speak and live out Your kindness to those around us, to be instruments of hesed in a world full of loss.

Sovereign God, we commit ourselves this week to look for Your kindness rather than only our losses. Quiet our accusations against Your character. Strengthen our faith in Your providence. And help us to trust that You are faithful, that You are kind, and that the trajectory of our lives — like the trajectory of all history — moves toward the full revelation of Your love in Christ. To You be the glory, both now and forever. Amen.

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Memory verse this week

Ruth 1:16-17

But Ruth said, "Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go, I will go, and where you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you."

Why this verse: This is the theological hinge of the sermon: Ruth's radical commitment to Naomi becomes a picture of Christ's hesed toward His people. Ricky establishes that Christ himself says 'where you go, I will go'—identifying with humanity, dying, and clinging to us even when we push Him away. Memorizing Ruth's vow anchors the listener in the gospel truth that God's kindness pursues us regardless of our circumstances or doubts.

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