How Do You Live Well Knowing You'll Die Someday

Ecclesiastes 9:1-10 July 26, 2026 Pastor Ricky Alcantar
Thesis Acknowledging the reality of death frees us to release what is passing and embrace both the daily gifts of this fleeting life and the imperishable life secured by Christ's defeat of death.
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55 units across exposition, application, illustration, theological claim, and conclusion. The pastor's argument is built from these moving parts.

Pastoral correction · unit #22
"Direct application of the death-after-death reality to different life stages in the congregation: the 12-year-old who's never thought about death, the invincible 20-year-old, the 82-year-old calculating weeks. The question 'Have you really considered the fragility of life?' is pastoral — intimate address shifting the voice from teacher to shepherd."
Doctrinal loci· 14 surfaced
Eschatology · 13 Soteriology · 11 Sanctification · 8 Anthropology · 7 Christology · 7 Hamartiology · 6 Providence / Sovereignty · 6 Ethics / Moral Theology · 5 Bibliology · 4 Doxology / Worship · 4 Pastoral Theology · 4 Ecclesiology · 2 Pneumatology · 2 Covenant Theology · 1
Bible citations· 27
Ecclesiastes 9:3 | Ecclesiastes 6 | Psalm 90:12 | Ecclesiastes 9:1-6 | Ecclesiastes 9:2-3 | Genesis 1-2 | Genesis 3 | Ecclesiastes 9:6 | Isaiah 25:8 | Daniel 12 | Hebrews 9:27 | 1 Corinthians 15 | Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 | Ecclesiastes 9:7 | Psalm 49:15 | 1 Corinthians 15:51-54 | Ecclesiastes 9:8 | Ecclesiastes 9:9 | Ecclesiastes 9:10 | 2 Corinthians 4 | John 5:24
Illustrations· 11
  1. historical example · unit #3 — The preacher introduces the 1777 New England Primer's alphabet as a historical example of how earlier cultures taught children to confront death from the earliest age. The humor and shock value ('wow, this is for 5-year-olds?') establish the contrast between Puritan directness and modern avoidance while building curiosity about why such an approach existed.
  2. cultural reference · unit #5 — A series of concrete cultural comparisons illustrate how modern Americans sequester death: fake deaths in entertainment vs. real deaths hidden in hospitals; blunt language ('they died') replaced with euphemisms ('passed away'); public grief (wearing black for a year) replaced with private grieving. The cumulative effect indicts the listener's own participation in death-avoidance.
  3. cultural reference · unit #9 — The preacher introduces a secular productivity book that echoes Ecclesiastes' death-awareness. The provocative opening line and chapter title ('In the Long Run, We're All Dead') serve as contemporary witnesses to the text's timeless truth. The humor ('if you're interested in that book, I've got it available') lightens the moment without undercutting the seriousness.
  4. personal story · unit #12 — A personal story of the preacher's first encounter with death in a pastoral role — a child dying at El Paso Children's Hospital. The vivid sensory detail (the beeps and whirs) and the emotional aftermath ('I need to rethink everything in my life') make the abstract theological claim concrete: death clarifies what matters.
  5. personal story · unit #16 — A personal family illustration makes the 'sandcastle' metaphor concrete: the preacher and his kids building a sandcastle, getting emotionally invested, then frustrated as the tide comes in. The self-aware humor ('I'm yelling at the tide') makes the point accessible — we all rage against the inevitable. The payoff: 'when you see it, you can finally let go. And that's a gift.'
  6. historical example · unit #23 — Return to the Puritan alphabet, this time with a direct address to teenagers ('this one's especially for you'). The preacher quotes G ('like the glass our life doth pass') and W ('while youth do cheer, Death may be near'), then breaks the tension with humor about Puritan rap skills. The humor doesn't undercut the point — it makes it memorable for the very audience most resistant to mortality themes.
  7. analogy · unit #30 — The preacher uses two extended analogies to make Christ's defeat of death vivid: death goes from 'roaring lion' to 'house cat,' and from 'endless flood' to 'ferryman.' The ferryman image is particularly effective — death now merely transports believers to eternal life rather than destroying them. This is imaginative preaching making doctrine accessible.
  8. historical example · unit #33 — Return to the Puritan primer to show that their death-awareness was paired with gospel hope: C (come to Christ), I (draw near to God), N (now is the time). The preacher vindicates the Puritans as gospel people, not downers. The phrase 'death of death' becomes a refrain for Christ's victory. This illustration serves both as historical defense and gospel summary.
  9. personal story · unit #37 — A personal family story illustrates gift-seeking: the preacher's boys at the Shavers' house for a scavenger hunt. Once they knew gifts were hidden, they looked at everything differently. The application: Ecclesiastes trains us to see life as a scavenger hunt — 'God gives gifts, and he basically says, I want you to just be attuned and go find them.' This is the interpretive lens for the passage's commands.
  10. personal story · unit #45 — A self-deprecating story about picking up a bucket-list book and realizing how few of the 1,001 places he'll actually see. The humor ('I was so stupid and hopeful') and exaggerated examples (4-week hikes, 2 years of training) set up the contrast with eternal hope. This is a contemporary version of the sandcastle/tide illustration — our aspirations vs. reality.
  11. historical example · unit #52 — The preacher returns to the Puritans one final time to vindicate them as joyful, life-affirming people. He cites Leland Ryken's Worldly Saints to correct the cultural stereotype. The list (kids, marriage, music, art, reading, exploring) and the aside about Puritan frankness on marital intimacy ('became uncomfortable for me to read') is both informative and humanizing. This is the setup for the final Puritan quotation.
Theological claims· 13
  1. Modern American culture excels at pushing death far from consciousness, in contrast to earlier cultures that confronted it directly because death was an immediate, unavoidable reality. unit #4
  2. Ecclesiastes 9 pushes death to the forefront not to depress or paralyze but to free us to live well. unit #6
  3. The text calls us to acknowledge that death is a universal event that happens to all, regardless of our willingness to acknowledge it. unit #8
  4. Death exposes the futility of both libertine autonomy ('I'll live however I want') and moralistic self-salvation ('I'll be good enough to avoid suffering') — both end in the same place. unit #10
  5. Acknowledging the finitude of life produces wisdom by cutting through the smoke and mirrors of life and forcing us to reckon with reality. unit #11
  6. Humans are profoundly unhappy because they are trying to find a source of life they have cut themselves off from through sin. unit #19
  7. At the final judgment, those who have chosen to be cut off from the source of life will receive that choice forever, along with the penalty for the evil they have done. unit #21
  8. Jesus Christ is uniquely the man who defeated death — in contrast to all other religious or political figures who died and stayed dead. unit #28
  9. Christ's resurrection opens the way to life for all who follow him, and he will ultimately destroy death itself as the last enemy. unit #29
  10. We receive Christ by reversing the Genesis 3 rebellion — submitting to God as his people, in his place, under his rule — and putting faith in Christ as Savior and Lord. unit #32
  11. The Book of Ecclesiastes teaches that God gives both humbling gifts (our mortality) and joyful gifts (food, marriage, work), and we are to embrace both. unit #36
  12. Beyond embracing the gifts of this life, we embrace the life after life — the hope that God will redeem our souls from the grave and receive us, a hope that goes far beyond this frustrating life. unit #42
  13. The unmet longings of this life will pale in comparison to what Christ has prepared for us in eternity — in 100 years in his presence, we will have forgotten all about the dream homes, achievements, and aspirations that consumed us here. unit #46
Quotations· 4
"Introduction: In the Long Run, We're All Dead" — 4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals (chapter title) (unit #4)
"The average human lifespan is absurdly, terrifyingly, insultingly short." — 4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals (unit #4)
"wherever you are, be all there" — Jim Elliot (unit #47)
"Worldly Saints" — Leland Ryken (book title) (unit #48)
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0 · The preacher opens by orienting the congregation to Ecclesiastes 9, a less-familiar text, and frames the church's teaching philosophy as comprehensive exposition of the entire canon over time

All right, good morning. It is good to see everyone in the house of the Lord today. I want to invite you to open your Bibles to Ecclesiastes chapter 9. That may not be a typical place you open your Bible, but that's okay, because one of the things our church aims to do in our teaching of the Word is to teach all of the Bible for all of life. And so, by God's grace, if you're here for like 30, 40 years with me, we're going to get through the whole Bible. I don't know if you'll be there for all of that, but that is our aim. Our goal is that every single part of God's Word is active, and we want to teach it the way that God delivered it, book by book, section by section. So, we're going to be in Ecclesiastes chapter 9 as we pull out a particular theme in the book of Ecclesiastes.

1 · The preacher reads Ecclesiastes 9:3 as a framing verse before the full passage reading

And I'm going to introduce it just by reading one verse that I think sets the stage, and then we're going to cover verses 1 through 10. Verse 3, Ecclesiastes 9, verse 3, and let's remember this too is God's holy and authoritative Word. This is an evil in all that is done under the sun. That the same event happens to all. Also, the hearts of the children of man are full of evil, and madness is in their hearts while they live, and after that they go to the dead.

2 · Brief invocation asking for illumination — that the congregation would receive what God intends from the text

And this too is God's Lord, we pray for Your blessing on the preaching and the hearing of Your Word in Your house today. May You open our eyes. May we get what You have intended from this section of Scripture. In Jesus' name, amen.

3 · The preacher introduces the 1777 New England Primer's alphabet as a historical example of how earlier cultures taught children to confront death from the earliest age

I want to tell you about the most intense alphabet I have ever encountered. It comes from the 1970s— I'm sorry, 1777, 1777 New England primer, and this contains, you know, some of the standard things you'd assume in a school-age primer, the vowels, the consonants, the double letters, the easy syllables, the words of one syllable, the words of 2 syllables, etc. Lessons for children. But then the alphabet is where it gets really fun. In— now when I say A is for, what's the first thing that comes into your mind? A is for Apple, right? No, it's not right at all. A is, according to the 1777 New England Primer, in Adam's fall we sinned all. Thus begins the alphabet. Some other favorites I have in this lesson, this alphabet lesson, is G. G is a personal favorite. As runs the glass, our life doth pass. You're like, wow, this is for 5-year-olds? And my absolute favorite is X, which is obvious. If you're a schoolteacher, you know, like, X is always a problem. What's X? They've got it for you. X. Xerxes the Great did die, and so must you and I. Imagine this just recited by schoolchildren. I love it.

4 · The preacher defends the Puritan alphabet by contextualizing it: in a world where a quarter to a third of children died before adulthood, death was an immediate reality requiring immediate preparation

Now, you may be tempted to think the Puritans were crazy, the New Englanders are nuts, but I want you to consider something about all the kids learning this alphabet. At this time in the 1700s in the United States, about a quarter up to a third of infants and children did not make it to adulthood. So, they lived in a world in which eternity and death were not somewhere down the road past retirement, they were right there. So, from the very beginning, they were dead earnest about teaching their kids to deal with the reality of life and death. Now, the reason this strikes us today as strange and maybe bizarre, maybe a little uncomfortable, is that our culture in particular in America excels at pushing the reality of death far from our minds.

5 · A series of concrete cultural comparisons illustrate how modern Americans sequester death: fake deaths in entertainment vs

Now, I'm not talking about the bloodless superhero crowd death. You know, where a tower falls and you're like, who are those people? They're just CGI people. We don't care about them. They're just— they're fake. Or a fake action movie, you know, blood death, like, ah, ah, and we all know they're not really dead, right? That stuff is all around us, but real death, real death is what we avoid. Centuries ago, for example, you would have walked into church past a church graveyard greeting people that you knew and grew up with. Every day on the way to church. But now we've moved the cemeteries further out, so we don't have to see them quite as often. Most people in centuries past died at home, where most here die in hospitals or other facilities. For centuries, people used blunt terms like, they died, they have died. That's what you read in the 1700s. But we prefer in our world to use language like, they passed away. Or they are no longer with us. And in previous cultures, grief was a public thing. You would wear black for a year in some cultures. It would be obvious. And yet grief in our American culture is relegated off to the side and intended to be dealt with privately so that it doesn't bother the rest of us having to think about death more while we enjoy our meal, right? We want that stuff pushed away from us.

Where this fits

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The three sermons immediately preceding this one in the preaching schedule.

Jun 14, 2026
Because God has definitively changed everything through the gospel of Jesus Christ, Christians must stop living like slaves who have been freed but continue wearing their chains, and instead live in the reality of their new identity as washed, renewed heirs of eternal life.
Titus 3:1-8
Jun 21, 2026
To avoid wasting your life, you must avoid distraction from the gospel, embrace discomfort for Christ's kingdom over personal comfort, and devote yourself fully to good works that advance and adorn the gospel.
Titus 3:8-15
Jul 5, 2026
Life feels pointless when we grasp at fleeting things under the sun, but when we submit to God's sovereignty and align ourselves with His eternal purposes, we discover true meaning and are freed to enjoy His gifts.
Ecclesiastes 1
July 26 · This sermon
How Do You Live Well Knowing You'll Die Someday
Acknowledging the reality of death frees us to release what is passing and embrace both the daily gifts of this fleeting life and the imperishable life secured by Christ's defeat of death.
Ecclesiastes 9:1-10
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Daily readings · Monday–Friday

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This week we walk through death's reality and Christ's victory over it — from acknowledging what we naturally avoid, to receiving the freedom that comes from facing it, to embracing both the gifts of this fleeting life and the imperishable life Christ has secured.

Monday Hebrews 9:27

The writer of Hebrews states it plainly: 'people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.' This is not a negotiable fact. Modern America specializes in pushing death out of sight, but the reality does not change because we ignore it. What we avoid in consciousness still waits for us — and Ricky invites us this week to stop running from that truth and let it free us instead.

Tuesday 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

Paul describes the Christian life as a paradox: 'Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.' This is not depression — it is clarity. We acknowledge that our bodies are temporary without despair because our spirits are being renewed by the Holy Spirit. We can release our grip on the things of this world precisely because we are fixed on 'what is unseen' and 'eternal.' This is the freedom Ecclesiastes points toward.

Wednesday 1 Corinthians 15:51-54

Paul proclaims that in Christ, 'death has been swallowed up in victory.' The gospel is not a philosophy for accepting death — it is a proclamation that death itself has been defeated. Christ did not merely teach us how to think about death; he rose from it. And because he rose, all who trust in him will rise too, and death will be erased from creation forever. This is why facing death now does not crush us — we face it knowing it has already been conquered.

Thursday John 5:24

Jesus says: 'Whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.' Notice the tense: has eternal life — not will have, but has. To believe in Christ is not to purchase insurance against future judgment; it is to cross over now from death to life. The judgment that every human faces finds no condemnation for those who are in Christ. This is the invitation Ecclesiastes prepares us to hear and accept.

Friday Psalm 49:15

The psalmist declares: 'But God will redeem my life from the grave; he will surely take me to himself.' This is the promise that anchors the whole Christian life: God does not merely leave us to dust. He reaches down, takes us up, and receives us into his presence. All the unfulfilled dreams, unmet loves, and unfinished pursuits of this life will fade like morning mist when we stand in the presence of Christ. Acknowledging death does not lead to despair — it leads us to grip this truth: our soul, our self, belongs to God, and he will not let us go.

Sunday-evening family table

What If We Stopped Pretending?

For the parent

This card invites your family to name one thing each person is spending energy on that won't matter in 100 years — and then to notice what will matter. The goal is to help kids see that acknowledging death's reality doesn't make us sad; it makes us wise about what's actually worth our time.

Ricky said that knowing we're going to die helps us stop wasting energy on things that won't last. So here's the question for tonight: What's one thing you spend time or energy on that you know won't matter in 100 years? (Could be a worry, a dream, a comparison, a thing you want.) Say it out loud. Then — what's one thing will matter in 100 years? (Hint: Ricky talked about people we love, time with family, knowing Jesus.) What changes when you think about it that way?
works for ages 7+ (younger kids can listen and name one thing; teens and adults engage the comparison at full depth)
Couples · three questions over coffee

Living Well in Light of Death

  1. What did you hear in this sermon about death that surprised you or shifted how you're thinking about your own mortality?
  2. In what ways are we, as a couple, still clinging to things that won't last — dreams, possessions, grudges — instead of releasing them and embracing the gifts God has given us right now?
  3. How can we pray for one another this week to live with greater freedom from fear, deeper gratitude for the ordinary gifts of this life, and stronger hope in the life Christ has secured for us?
Memory verse this week

Ecclesiastes 9:7-8

Go, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a glad heart, for God has already approved what you do. Let your garments be always white, and let not oil be lacking on your head.

Why this verse: This verse is the sermon's pivot from acknowledging death's reality to embracing life's daily gifts — it captures Ricky's central claim that recognizing our mortality frees us to receive the fleeting joys God scatters throughout this life with open hands and grateful hearts. It's the text that answers the question posed in the sermon's title: *How do you live well knowing you'll die?* By receiving bread, wine, and gladness as gifts from God's hand.

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